How many invited versus how many came?

Plan for everyone to show up. And don't tier your reception, it's super rude.

Not everyone will show unfortunately.

Especially if you have out of state people who are invited.

We are in the same boat as you with our invite number being very close to our max capacity. So hopefully people don't bring uninvited plus ones!

Daniella H I'm not tiering my reception. Your assumption in so is rude.

@daniella her wedding isn't until September so she probably hasn't sent out invites yet. It's not a tiered thing. I think she is trying to figure out exactly how many to invite.

You need to factor in everyone you are inviting. So if you are inviting Friend A plus one, you need to assume they will bring a plus one. Remember that people in relationships aren't a plus one. You should assume everyone you invite is coming.

Yes, plan for 100% attendance, and since your wedding isn't for six months or so also plan on some extra SO's. Your guests may be relationships by then so have a few extra seats. Count your and your FH and the vendors if it's a room capacity issue.

Girl, I'm right there with you.

I invited 135 and I'm hoping 80-90. We are doing a destination in Vegas though.

We invited like 190-200 and had about 170 if I remember. We also had a about 12 no shows, and a few people who showed that I did not plan on, like my cousins son/nephew who was supposed to be out of state with the military! I was so happy to see him.

OP, you should not invite an amount that exceeds the venues capacity (don't forget to include you and FH, and any vendors you need to feed in the count!)

Realistically, you'll probably have a couple declines, but you should not use them as extra invites. Consider them bonus savings and space

We invited 250 guests (age 21 and up) and 225 attended, on the Sunday evening of a 3-day, summer holiday weekend.

We invited 160, which was our venue's max. We expected 135 or 140 since everyone said to expect 15-20% to say no, but nope - 155 are coming! That includes one +1 we didn't initially plan for.

You said you wanted to send out a few extra invites to people who "didn't make the list", which sounded like B-listing to me. If that isn't the case, my mistake!

Quite a few of my relatives currently live abroad - not all of them can make it (which I was expecting).

Every single one of my local & out-of-state guests RSVP'd yes, except for my cousin's elderly grandmother who recently became unwell. I'm still waiting on one uncle to RSVP, but at last family gathering he did say he was coming.

The weddings I have been to - there is always at least one couple who doesn't come, but I don't think it is something that you should count on.

It would be "B" listing if she sent other invites out before them and waited for people to rsvp no before she invited them. Her wedding is in September. She hasn't sent out invites yet. She is probably deciding if she can add a few to her guest list that she originally thought she couldn't.

I invited about 175-185 (all I know is I sent out 95 invitation suites). So far we have close to 90 people attending. Going off people's reactions so far, we think our headcount will be closer to 120. The vast majority of our guest list have to travel to Atlanta to attend and I know that and childcare are the big reasons people are declining. I should have a final count in about 3 weeks though.

We invited 120 and we wanted around 100. 98 will be coming.

We invited 124 and had 96 people say yes and attend. It was a perfect number.

We expect almost 100% attendance because we decided to invited only close family and close friends and their guests. We picked and chose carefully.

Always plan for 100% attendance!

We invited 150. We had 130 guests attend. We had 2 guests not be able to attend at the last minute. No one came that didn't RSVP yes, and no one brought an extra plus-1 that they weren't given.