How many do you invite to your bachelorette party?

None, cause im not having one =) but i will BUMP ya

I'd invite my closest friends and relatives

I invited my closest and oldest friends. but we went out to Karaoke, so it's different at a bar.

Yeah, I don't want to do the "bar" thing. At all. Some are my "closest" friends, and then there are my "oldest" friends. Some of which I don't see on as common a basis as others, but I still feel like maybe they'd want to celebrate with me. That's the dilemma I'm having.

* thanks * Sabrina

As long as all of them are invited to the wedding and you're ok with that many people in your house then I say go for it! Is it just a wino night? Or are you doing something else along with it?

A friend of mine did the same thing. We all stayed in, drank wine and a rum punch and played trashy bachelorette party games. She had someone come and sell us all sex toys which was something I've never done before, lol. It was interesting. And even though it was low-key, it was definitely memorable.

I'm really only inviting my bridal party formally... and then if they want to bring someone (like one girl might want to bring her sister) I will be fine with it as long as I know them.... and then I might just do a quick fb status for everyone else the night of.... lol something like "hey, we are at this place for my bachelorette party for anyone who wants to come!"... of course I wouldn't do that if I were having it at my house or hotel... if I were doing that it would just be the bridal party

Yeah, they are all invited to the wedding. My bridal party is only my sister and my soon to be step-daughter (who's 12, so she won't be there). We're just going to make some appetizers, have a few drinks, maybe play some silly bachelorette games (but I doubt it) and mostly just visit. I have 2 friends who've offered up their houses. It'd just be a glorified "ladies night."

It's hard when you have people from different stages of your life. I don't want anyone to feel left out, but I also don't want them to come and feel like they don't know anyone. The people I hang with are really nice and I think they'd all get along. Just some are more outgoing than others.

I was going to say the ladies that are in your bridal party, but your soon to be step daughter is 12. So your sister and a small handfull of your closest friends should go. If I have one (i hope i don't cause im not a big fan of drinking...i do drink but i can't handle a lot of alcohol...small amounts are good for me). Don't forget your DD (Designated Driver) for your night. 20 I would say is way too many. maybe 5-10 people? Who are you closest to? Who does drink a good bit? who don't drink alot? who doesnt drink at all? THink of it like that.

My bachelorette party is a weekend getaway with my favorite gals, so I will have less than 10 people with me. However, I did go to one over the weekend where there was approximately 30 people, but it was dinner and a scavenger hunt. I think it depends on what you are doing. To me, the 30 people was way too many. No one really had a chance to talk to the bride except the people sitting directly next to her at dinner.

We only had like 8 people go to mine and it was perfect!!

I think you should invite all 20. Chances are not everyone will be able to make it. Since you are just hanging out, coordinating the details at somebody's house is a lot easier than if you were going out on the town. I'd say, the more the merrier.

I won't be having one, but I would limit it to the # of people you can easily coordinate and who can all be seated together. Getting everyone to the same place at the same time becomes a chore once you get more than, I don't know, maybe 7-8 people.

Same as Sabrina, none 'cause we're not having those, but we'll be hanging out with the bridal party only the night before, I think bach parties are usually involved the closest friends/family (excluding the parents) and the bridal party

20 is a great #. Have fun!!

I'm inviting 15-20.

Thank you for all the insight. I took it down to 17 (including me) and of those I know not all will be coming. I think that since it's at a friends home it'll be just fine. It'll be very laid back. I'm looking forward to it!