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Just Said Yes June 2016

How many bridesmaids are too many?

Jamie, on April 16, 2017 at 1:39 AM Posted in Planning 0 25

My daughter is planning her wedding party, she has 3 sisters who she wants in her wedding along with her childhood best friend. Her fiancé has 4 sisters, 2 are near her age and 2 are teenagers. She feels like she would love to have them all be a part of the wedding, especially his two sisters who are nearest her age. Is 8 bridesmaids too many? Her fiancé has 6 groomsmen.

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Latest activity by WonderWoman, on April 27, 2018 at 7:34 PM
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    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Sarah ·
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    I've seen that many before! And they all make sense to be included!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted August 2017
    Ashley ·
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    I feel like you can never have too many!! I also had the same struggle.. so I ended up with 9 bridesmaids and I'm so happy with that choice. Everyone gets to be included, however much they want to be, and I get to make these amazing memories with those I love. Tell her to go for it!!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted April 2018
    Ashley ·
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    We aren't asking our bridal party until August but my FH and I are each planning to ask 7.

    Since two of the sisters are younger your daughter could consider making them Jr BMs. But you'd have to read other threads to get details on Jr BM, I'm not so familiar with the role differentiation.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    Eight BMs is eight times the drama. End of story.

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    Devoted April 2017
    Miranda ·
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    Depends how much you or her wants to spend

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated March 2018
    Ashley ·
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    I don't think it's too many...depends on your circle and if they all get along. You can have 2 and have drama. I plan on asking 7 ladies plus my MOH. They aren't dramatic individuals

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  • Sarah
    Super April 2017
    Sarah ·
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    I had 7. It was a lot. 7 bridesmaids gifts, 7 bouquets, 7 girls that need to get their hair done the day of the wedding. If you want them in matching dresses, it's harder for them to all agree on a single dress. Just things to think about.

    Would I change the fact that I had 7? Nope.

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  • Natalie
    VIP June 2017
    Natalie ·
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    I think it is. It's also means a lot more money spent on flowers, make up, hair, bridesmaid gifts etc.

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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    If they're all special to her and she has the budget for 8 bouquets, gifts, and plates at the rehearsal dinner, she should go for it.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Big bridal parties are expensive, stressful, and chaotic on the day. It is worth REALLY considering why they're up there when presumably, everyone at the wedding is an honored guest.

    Personally, I"m seeing more of my couples having smaller parties; the expense of gifts, flowers, rehearsal dinner invites is major, the possibility for drama high, and the expense on their end is something to consider too. I honestly can't think of the payoff to be honest.....

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  • Chelsea
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    Chelsea ·
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    I don't think you should feel obligated to have someone in your party just because they're family. I wouldn't ask the teens. Find something else for them to do.

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    Master August 2017
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    8 is not too many if she wants it, but it's expensive!! That's 8 bm bouquets, 8 bm thank you gifts, 8 people plus their partners to the rehearsal dinner.

    Plus 8 opinions on the bm dress and any other things

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  • BlushingBride
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    BlushingBride ·
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    While it does make for a lot of commotion, you only do it once. I say go for it! They're all siblings, don't leave anyone out. You would hate to have regrets later

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    Just Said Yes June 2016
    Jamie ·
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    Thanks everyone. We are paying for her wedding and her finances parents are paying for the rehearsal so I'm sure the girls, their daughters, would be there regardless. She is very close with his family and would like to include them all. We have all been together as families a few times and they couldn't be nicer, I'm not too worried about drama. Just trying to get opinions on wedding party size! And we will have less groomsmen, but my thought was the two younger girls could walk without a groomsman.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    There are other ways to include people besides having them in the bridal party.

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  • MOB
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    MOB ·
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    I think it depends on the size of the wedding. You don't want the bridal party proportionally bigger than the rest of the wedding guests.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    I think 8 is too many, I think 5 would be max for me. We are having 3 on each side.

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    Devoted July 2017
    Masada ·
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    I have 7 and it's been great. My sister, my best friends of 15 years and my sisters in law who I'm extremely close with. I couldn't picture our day without them. So I'm no help Smiley smile

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    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    3 or 4. Many more than that looks like you tried to stuff in as many as possible to keep everybody happy.

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    Expert August 2017
    Whitney ·
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    Whatever you are able to handle. I have five and my only regret is that I didn't wait longer to ask because I would not have asked one of the girls. I was a BM in her wedding in November and she has been very lackluster in her involvement, and I was very involved in hers.

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