How long should I wait to contact people for their RSVP?

When are your final numbers due by?

Holy crap...sorry.

^^ I agree with FMM. It depends on the final count due date

Are these people on your Facebook? I would post a reminder the day before. I ended up having to contact the few people who didn't RSVP. I texted them and said "Hey, I haven't received your RSVP yet. Will you be able to attend the wedding?" Almost all responded.

My final numbers were due 4 days after the RSVP date, so I had to get on top of it.

^yikes. why wouldn't you give more time???

I gave them like 2 days, just in case the mail was slow or they put it in the mail the last day. All the people we had to follow up with had never sent it lol.

Our wedding is at my fiancé's grandparents farm, so we are doing a lot ourselves. Our caterer needs the final count early August.

Set it at least 1-2 weeks before your need your number to the caterer.

DKS did you change your username?

My wedding was 6/26. I had to have the final headcount to the caterer no later than 6/15. I put a due date of 5/29 on the RSVP's. I wanted to give myself another week to chase people down if necessary without bumping up against the caterer's deadline for the headcount. Starting on June 1, I began emailing and calling those who had not sent in their RSVP. My email went something like this:

Hi Jesse,

We are so excited that the wedding is in 3 weeks!!

I have to give the final guest count to the caterer by the end of next week and since we haven’t received your RSVP yet, I wanted to reach out to see if you’ll be able to come. A gift is not necessary. Just come and enjoy the ceremony and reception if you can make it. I’d love to have you there.

I gave myself one week to contact the laggers and another week for them to respond. In short, if I didn't hear from them by June 12 (even though the date the caterers gave me was June 15), I would put them down as a NO. All the laggers responded within the extra week I gave them.

Hey date twin. Argh, RSVP's. The bane of my existence. I gave a deadline of August 1st. I'm at about 50% received back. I was getting such a good response initially, now they're trickling in one or none each day . I only have one no so far, and wish everyone would send theirs so I can invite some B list if I get enough no's. I get some people might not have childcare situated or something and aren't sure, but the people that wait just because there is a deadline, I don't get it. I was at a 4th of July event and a lot of family was there. I asked about RSVPs, and people said things like it said August 1st. These are people I know will be going. My family as a whole is horrible about RSVPing. Do they not get that I need to know if they are bringing a guest and what they want to eat. One of my Aunt's mentioned my cousin won't be able to come because school starts early where he lives and he is a teacher. OK great, tell him to send the RSVP!!! Sorry for the rant. I know there is still time before the deadline, but I know I'll have to call a lot of people. What a waste of stamps. Anyway, back to you, haha, I would give a little more time unless your venue requires final numbers this early, or you need a final count for something else like B list, etc.

I plan on waiting 1 week for those who might mail it at the last minute, and then I make one phone call. If I end up leaving a message I plan to say that If I don't hear from them by 'said' date, I will assume they are unable to make it.

I just texted people, or got my mom/dad to call relatives and ask if they were coming. Simple. It's not rude, just ask " Hey Grandma, I haven't received a response from you yet, are you coming to the wedding?"

I did something similar to Karebear...I sent a note that said something like, "Hi guys! If you haven't yet, would you please drop your RSVP in the mail? Although we would love for you all to attend, we understand if some of you can't make it. Would you please let us know as soon as possible? If we don't hear from you within the week, we will put you down as a "no"...and still like you!" Good luck!

My RSVP deadline is July 15 and we will start the follow up on July 20. My numbers arent due unil Sept 1 I think but I know our friends and family and we will have to chase some down a few times. FH and I agreed we will try 2 times to get ahold, and 2 different ways at that (email, phone call, text, FB). No response but 5 days later, they are considered a no.

I was planning on giving people a bit of a cushion after the deadline, but by that time I was so annoyed that people couldn't respond within the 5 weeks we gave them that I started calling after only a couple days. I called, texted, emailed and had my mom and FH do the same with a few people too.

I texted/ called/ emailed & finally had to resort to Facebook for two. I let it slide for 6 days after they were due. I'm still waiting to hear back from 6 ppl but my venue said that's ok, we just need a close estimate of people. 160 confirmed out of 200 isn't bad!

My deadline is tomorrow and i've only received 40% back. I put up a subtle reminder on facebook this morning but i'm sure i will likely have to start calling next week. I think people forget, or like i read in another thread, some people think the rules don't apply to them.

I would give them your RSVP date plus the average length of time estimated for postage from their location to your location. A lot of guests assume that RSVP = the last day they can mail the card out. However, if you're doing an online RSVP then I would give them a couple of days.