How Long Does a Bridesmaid Have to Stay at the Wedding?

Given their incredibly rude behavior, just stay through dinner.

You're a far better version than I will ever be. I would have told that bitch BYEEEEEE!

But that ship had sailed. As a BM I'd stay the whole wedding. However, in your situation I'd be gone after pictures.

Or if you stay, don't eat your food and bring home your plate to FH lol.

^^^and make a face in every photo

Well you said yes even tho so wasn't invited and regardless this person is your friend so I assume you care about her. So I would stay at least until the cake cutting or dessert has come out and then leave after that

I would want my bm to stay the whole time personally but it depends on whether there's a just reason they didn't invite your so and how much you want this person in your life

Add me to the list that wouldn't even attend a wedding my fiance wasn't invited to let alone be a bridesmaids in one. However, all my friends and family like my fh so I feel like there's a story there if yours don't. If you already RSVpd yes then you need to stay through dinner. It's your call how long you want to stay after that.

Head out right after you eat and drink a bit. Tell her you need to get home to your FH since he is all alone at home. Let them KNOW!

I'd leave after dinner. I also would have dropped out if my FH wasn't invited.

ETA: Agreed with PPs, do not get them a gift.

I definitely would have dropped out if they didn't invite my husband. Is there any particular reason why they dont like him?

This may be a UO, but I'd peace out after the ceremony.

I'm also curious how your friend went about letting you know that he wasn't invited. Because I feel like there would have been some words exchanged if my friend directly told me that my partner wasn't welcome. Did you hear through the grapevine or just decide it wasn't worth it to confront her?

Stay through ceremony and pictures. Possibly dinner.

I would have dropped. but since you decided not to i would leave right after ceremony honestly.

I don't know the story as to why they don't like him, but I would leave somewhere between after introductions, just because it would be super awkward to have everyone see you up there and then not be there for the intros, and cake cutting. I'd also never be in a wedding without DH being invited, but I applaud you for valuing the friendship.

Again without knowing the story, it sounds to me if you leave early, this friendship would probably be over. They already don't like your FH and this would just be one more reason for them not to like him. The whole "oh he made her leave early" type mindset.

I would just stay through dinner. Honestly I have no idea when my BMs left. I was too busy dancing and socializing with everyone. I think they both stayed until close to the end. Certainly not to help clean up!! Yuck. You don't make your friends or family work 033118.

Well that's shitty. I agree with PPs, as soon as she told me that my H wasn't invited, I would have declined the BM offer AND the invitation.

I also hope that you're not inviting these people to your DW and paying for their travel.

I agree with PP that I wouldn't be in a BM in a wedding where FH wasn't invited. That alone would be friendship-ending for me. I'd just never get over this kind of rudeness because it's not only hurtful to you, but publicly disrespecting your relationship with FH.

If you're really going to go to this wedding, I'd stay through dinner. No cake, no dancing.

Oh man - or have FH show up at the reception after dinner to "pick you up." That's really mean (and a nightmare as a bride), but I'm not sure I'd care in your situation.

Wow that's super rude! I would walk right on to the car and go be with my FH humph

I second @Mrs. Fall Bride exact statement!!!!

I think you should speak to them about your feelings in this. It's so totally rude that they didn't invite your FH! Unless he's somehow dangerous or someone's ex, I don't understand that. I agree with those who said they would have dropped out after learning he wasn't invited. Speak to them, ask if they will change their minds. If not, either drop out or stay through dinner then bounce.

I think you should stay as long as your having fun , FH can survive an evening alone.

Eat your dinner, drink some drinks, and then peace out.

033118- I completely disagree. Usually I'd be all for staying and helping, but fuck courtesy and etiquette. I would never not invite a SO of a friend or family member I felt close enough to make BP!