How Long Does a Bridesmaid Have to Stay at the Wedding?

I wouldn't be standing up in a wedding that my FH wansn't invited to, let alone for people who "don't like him".

I guess if you're really set on going, you could stay through cake cutting and/or toasts.

I would hope that my bridesmaid would stay for the entire wedding. Any wedding I've been a bridesmaid in I stayed until the very end and helped pack up/clean up, make sure everything was taken care of.

I would have dropped out, too! How rude of this bride. I would say once toasts are over at dinner, head out. Pictures should be done by then, too.

Well one, I wouldn't be standing up in a wedding that my husband wasn't invited too. Just rude.

And two, it's usually nice for a bridesmaid to stay until the end. But in your situation I'd at least make it to cake cutting and maybe a couple songs then I would be out of there.

And I'd take a piece of cake for my husband.

When I first read your title, I was going to say that I would try to stay through dinner.

Now that I read the full story, I'd consider leaving after the ceremony/pictures. Do they just not like your FH or is there more to the story?

I agree with pp I would have dropped once it was clear my FH wasn't invited (especially considering you are ENGAGED). It's rude enough to not invite significant others not in the bridal party. It's downright absurd to do that to a BM.

Since its so soon and I assume you have put some money out. I would stay until the end of dinner/toasts and then leave.

Is this your brother's wedding?

Stick it out as long as you can, ceremony and photos would be great and dinner if you rsvp'ed for yourself.

Wow- as others have said, I would have declined to be a BM once my FH was not invited. "They don't like him"?? Well too bad!

I was going to say that a BM should stay the entire time. Based on your circumstances, you should leave as soon as dancing starts so it won't be as noticeable you are no longer at the BM/BP table. The bride will probably be pissed, but I think leaving early is a good way to show your "protest" over your FH not being invited.

My mom had a bridesmaid leave part of the way through her wedding and she hasn't spoken to that woman since. Not that this is the best example, and I admit my mom is petty. Just be prepared for it maybe ending a friendship (which kind of was already ended by them not inviting your FH...) . Just wanted to point out that aspect since it seems you care about this bride enough to be in her party even though FH isn't invited .

For the record I'm with the others who wouldn't be in the bridal party if FH wasn't invited unless the wedding was tiny and nobody else had a SO going.

After cake cutting, first dance, your official job is done!

I would say the whole time but since they were rude and didn't invite FH I wouldn't stay pass dinner or anything that you need to participate in like wedding party dance or something like that. If you are done with everything then leave.

I would not be in a wedding party that my husband wasn't invited to. Easy.

Have you tried talking to the B/G? I'm getting married in November and can't stand one of our groomsmen... our best man to boot! But he's my FH's best friend and we're even giving him a plus 1. If you haven't already, maybe try explaining to the B/G that although you'd like to enjoy spending their entire big day with them, you'd be limited since your own family is important to you too. If that doesn't work then I agree with others... stay thru the important stuff (dinner, toasts, cake) and then peace the F out! Good luck!

Katie, thank you, you are right!

I think I keep going back to it because I still want to know what her mom is wearing to that

Again, thanks

That is screaming rude. I'd walk down the aisle and into the car.

Nope, actually, I would have dropped out of the party. You don't have an "official" job, and her official "job" was to invite BP's SO's.

And packing and cleaning? That's paid staff, not BP.

Yabbut guys who are saying "I'd expect/hope...", you probably also would have invited the BM's significant other as well, so your expectations are a moot point here.

OP, you're on the hook to going now, so if I were you, I'd cut my losses and leave after dinner if for no reason than to be the bigger person given the couple did pay for a meal for you. But I wouldn't stay for cake or toasts, dancing, etc.

I would also caution that what you do depends on how much you value this friendships...IMHO, this kind of thing is worth a discussion if you like the couple/bride enough to want to stay friends, because if they even notice you leave (if you don't tell them prior, that is) then they'll likely be miffed that you cut out early.

Dinner and call it the day.

Yeah, agree with everyone else. Normal instances I would stay but if my FH was invited I would be furious.

Wow! I am not a fan at all of our best mans girlfriend but we are still inviting her bc for some reason our best man thinks she's worth dating lol.

I would not be in a BP where my fiance, plain and simple.