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SamanthaG
Dedicated December 2014

How long after the wedding to have children?

SamanthaG, on January 1, 2015 at 7:31 PM

Posted in Married Life 37

Not sure if this may have been brought up before, but for those without any children yet, how soon (or late) do you plan on having children? We are thinking about a year to get pregnant, but I may try to convince him a bit sooner (9 months?). If I were younger, I would like to enjoy being a DINK...

Not sure if this may have been brought up before, but for those without any children yet, how soon (or late) do you plan on having children?

We are thinking about a year to get pregnant, but I may try to convince him a bit sooner (9 months?). If I were younger, I would like to enjoy being a DINK (dual income, no kids) longer but my eggs ain't getting any younger!

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
    Mrs. A & J ·
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    I so badly want to wait longer. I want kids in theory (and I really do!), but I don't feel an aching urge for them yet. But I'm 29 (almost 30), H is 30, and we want more than 1.....so its about time.

    This is an odd reason, but we absolutely will be vigilant about birth control until my brothers wedding in May. I have a history of inadvertently stealing my brothers thunder (I'm outgoing and loud, he's more introverted.... We got engaged a day after my brother did, but we hold off telling anyone). Anyways. I absolutely do NOT want anything to overshadow my brother these next few months!

    After that, we're also looking to buy a house this year. I think once we do that, we'll leave the birth control and start trying. So that will make it a little less than a year after we're married. But we've been living together, etc, for almost 4 years by now.....have enjoyed each other, our furbabies, etc.....so we've had our time for that

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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
    Pancakes ·
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    I will be 26 and he will be 28. We want to wait at least 3 years after the wedding to have kids. Like you said, we want to enjoy being DINKs for a little while (I just learned this phrase this summer!). Many of our friends are around 30-35 and have kids. We see them maybe once a year, some we haven't seen in many years even though they are less than 15 minutes away. We also have friends who are younger and older than us and do not have kids. We hang out almost every weekend and we they go on amazing vacations multiple times a year. I originally wanted to have kids before 30 (due to the medical concerns with having kids after 30), but now I'm thinking having one or two from 30-33 won't be the worst thing. I grew up very poor and never leaving more than 30 minutes from my home, so now that I can afford to travel, I want to do that.

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  • MrsPope
    Master September 2015
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    We already have one child. We plan to start TTC on our honeymoon lol.

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  • Chrissy
    VIP July 2015
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    We are going to start trying this year, right after the wedding. I don't want to wait too long to have my first child. My body is ready now and we are financially stable Smiley smile

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  • Chrissy
    VIP July 2015
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    I want to conceive on our honeymoon, but It doesn't line up with my ovulation cycle.

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  • 8815wedding
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    8815wedding ·
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    FH and I will be 25 when we get married, which is on the younger side, so we feel like we have plenty of time for kids and just want to enjoy being together. Right now the plan is to wait 5 years and then reassess our feelings about having children, since neither of us is 100% on wanting kids at all.

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  • Lara
    Master July 2015
    Lara ·
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    We've been ready, now we just have to wait til the wedding. I have an IUD that I will likely remove the cycle before the wedding, so we'll see what happens.

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  • MRS_TB627
    Devoted June 2015
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    I'm 25 and FH is 29. My BC is not scheduled to be removed until May or June 2016 (looks like I need to review my paperwork lol). FH doesn't want to wait until 2016 and wants me to remove my BC in late 2015 which would be 4 to 5 months after wedding. By that time I will of course be 26 and FH will be 30. I am perfectly content with waiting a year or more to start trying for a baby. FH acts like he has a fertility clock lol immediately after the wedding we plan to purchase a home. I'm hoping that the home buying process will keep his mind off of the baby process for a little while longer Smiley smile I don't think there's a perfect time it just depends on your circumstances and goals.

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  • songbird
    VIP March 2014
    songbird ·
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    We agreed that, while we would ideally wait 2-3 years, we really wanted kids and, due to our ages and my underlying health conditions, he risk of waiting too long was too high.

    We started trying ~3 months after our wedding, right after our delayed honeymoon, thinking it could take up to a year... I was pregnant 2 weeks later. Our daughter is due 2 weeks after our first wedding anniversary. We could not be more thrilled.

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  • Lauren
    Super October 2014
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    We are DINKS and love it! Honestly, we're both on the fence about having kids and we may or may not be content to just be the rich aunt and uncle to our nieces and nephews in the future. If we do have kids at all, it won't be for at least 3 years (I'm 27 now) and possibly longer than that. We're both enjoying life and having the ability to just live how we want. The other day I paid off one of my student loans because we've been able to live so cheaply and we hope to have the rest of ours paid off within the next year and a half (over $30k in student debt gone!!!)

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  • Rachey
    VIP June 2014
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    We were just married in June and actually started trying even a few months before the wedding, we were together six years and didn't want to wait, nor can we since I'm 42! I am undergoing my first IVF cycle right now. Hoping it works!

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  • Jessica
    Master May 2016
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    I've always wanted kids & I thought I would want to get pregnant right after the wedding. For some reason my feelings have changed. I'm petrified of having a kid now lol. By the time my wedding comes I'll be 27 so maybe 3 years after?

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  • Lauren
    Super June 2015
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    We plan on trying right after the wedding. I'll be 35 when we get married, so we're just going to start trying and see what happens!

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  • GrayCatVintage
    Master October 2015
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    I would recommend waiting at least two years. I do not have children but I am almost 30. Many of my friends are also in the age range of 27-35. Of those who got married and got pregnant right away many wished they had waited. They love their kids don't get me wrong but the issues came into not being allowed to have "just married" life for very long. A relative of mine met a guy at work and were married very quickly. 6 months later she was pregnant. Now, she is realizing the man she married was probably a mistake - but she wanted that baby so whatever. Another friend got pregnant on her honeymoon. They pulled the pill the month of the wedding because "of course it won't happen right away". Well it did happen right away and they are scrambling and having to ask family for financial help since their wedding was a huge splurge.

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  • MrsLaguna
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    No kids till 3 years after the wedding we want to do a lot of traveling before kids.

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  • The New Mrs. Compton
    Super November 2014
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    It's actually a little frustrating for us. We would both love to have a child now, (we've been married two months). But we are not financially ready. We live in an apartment, which I don't want to be living in with a child.

    Our goal is to buy a house this time next year, and then hopefully within a year of purchasing the house, we can start to try.

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  • FutureMrs.Monasterski
    Super October 2015
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    I will be 26 and FH will be 33 when we get marrried. We both want kids pretty quickly so I am going most likely come off my BC after our honeymoon in January. I am a control freak and don't want to risk the chance of randomly getting my period during our honeymoon

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