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Ashley
Devoted July 2021

How do you know when you find "the one"?

Ashley, on December 16, 2019 at 11:42 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 99

So naturally I've been browsing dresses online for months now. I found a dress at David's Bridal that I fell in love with and have been thinking about for months. I made an appointment and on Saturday went down with my girls and tried this dress on finally, in addition to maybe 8-10 more. It was the...

So naturally I've been browsing dresses online for months now. I found a dress at David's Bridal that I fell in love with and have been thinking about for months. I made an appointment and on Saturday went down with my girls and tried this dress on finally, in addition to maybe 8-10 more. It was the second dress I tried on and every dress I tried after I compared to this dress. They were all beautiful dresses but there was always something that made me say no, and I couldn't always put my finger on what it was. I just knew each dress wasn't "the one." So at the end of my appointment I put my favorite dress back on and tried a veil with it, and I loved it even more. It's just as beautiful in person, it look great on me, it's in my budget, and it just checks all my boxes. But when I was asked if I was saying yes to the dress, I couldn't do it.

I'm not one to make decisions quickly, especially large, important decisions. I think I just got nervous that I was in my first dress shop, and this was the second dress I've ever tried on. My girls told me to make a few more appointments at a couple more shops and if after trying a few more I keep thinking about this particular dress, then I'll know this was the one.

I watch a lot of "Say Yes to the Dress" and you always see over-the-top reactions from these girls. That's not me, so I wasn't expecting to cry or anything like that, but I'm just curious, how did you know that your dress was the one for you? I know everyone is different but I want to hear from real brides.

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  • Tara
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    My reaction was opposite of most. I didn’t like my dress when I put it on in the store. Later in the appointment my MOH showed me photos of me in multiple dresses, and I looked the best in the one I ended up buying. I had this dreaded fear for awhile that I settled on a dress. I put the dress back on a few months later and fell in love. I guess it grew on me 🤷‍♀️ Completely opposite of what I wanted, but it looks better on me than the model 😂 I hate the way it looks on DB’s website.
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  • J
    Beginner October 2021
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    I’m really glad to see this post. I’ve been having a lot of dress anxiety lately. There’s one dress I keep coming back to in my head, but I feel like I need to rule out all other possibilities. I also worry it looks more like a white party dress than a wedding dress. But I also don’t want a typical wedding dress?


    The gist of it is I have no idea what I want to wear, only what I don’t want to wear, and I see bits and pieces I like in some dresses but the execution is not fully there. So...anxiety!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Unfortunately there’s no such thing as the “one”. Because that means that out of the endless numbers of bridal gowns, you’ll only like and look great in ONE... well of course not. But I think the fantasy has been pumped into too many bride’s brains that you have to have a certain emotional connection to a dress. So that causes them to be indecisive and even purchase multiple dresses, still looking for the “one”. 🤦🏽‍♀️


    As for Say Yes To The Dress, they’re on TV. So I’m sure that plays a role in everything. Personally I’ve never cried over an article of clothing... and a bridal gown is no different. I saw my dress I liked on a bridal salon’s website and and knew it would look great on me (as would many other dresses). But, this was the dress I decided on and didn’t have a desire to keep looking. So I contacted the salon to see if the dress was available, ordered it from the salon (out of state) and had it shipped to me without ever trying it on. Honestly, I feel like it made the process easy.
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  • Molly
    Super October 2020
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    You just know. Listen to your heart
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  • Ashley
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    That's awesome!
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  • Ashley
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    I totally get that! I see pictures and I love the top...then I see the bottom. And when my bridesmaids were asking me what I'm looking for I kept telling them I wasn't sure, I just know what I'm not looking for. It's hard!
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  • Meghan
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    I knew it was my dress when there wasn't anything about it I wanted to change. There were other dresses I tried on, but had something on it/about it i didn't like, sometimes the thing was super minor. I didn't cry when I put my dress on, but I did not want to take it off!

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  • Ashley
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    That does sound easy!
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  • Ashley
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    Nice and to the point. Thank you for the advice!
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  • Ashley
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    That makes sense. There were some dresses I tried on and while they were beautiful, there was something I wasn't feeling, and I couldn't always put my finger on it. This one dress just felt right. I'll probably end up going back for it.
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  • E
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    Close your eyes, which dress are you wearing when you visualize ?
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  • Kristin
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    I like what the person said her MOH asked the consultant to bring something she thought would look good on the bride to be. That’s what I did. I gave my consultant my price point and an idea of silhouette, but I told her to bring dresses she thought would fit my body type. She brought 5, and the one I saved for last ended up being my dress. I got tears in my eyes but I didn’t cry. I just felt so beautiful and wanted my fiancé to see me that way. I really didn’t want to take it off. That’s how I knew it was my dress.
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  • Ashley
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    Honestly, I've been picturing myself in this dress ever since I saw it on the website. I guess that should tell me something...

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  • Ashley
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    That's so sweet!

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  • Catherine
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    Thank you!! Smiley heart I can't wait to see you in your dress Smiley love

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  • anna
    Devoted October 2019
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    Thank you so much! You will be gorgeous in whatever dress you pick Smiley smile

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  • Katie
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    It's totally normal, and can be very smart, to go home and sleep on it or come back the next day or week before signing on the dotted line at a dress shop. Give yourself time to feel the excitement of the dress before having to break out the check book!


    The funny thing is....I had an "over the top" reaction to a dress that ended up NOT being the one! I had made a couple appointments and at the end of the day I was just feeling excited, happy, overwhelmed, pampered, beautiful, tired, etc. after a day of trying on dresses that I just started crying with my dad...while it just so happened I was still wearing a beautiful wedding dress that everyone then assumed was the one.

    Once I had on *my* dress, I was totally calm and I had never felt more beautiful or more me - similarly to you, everything I tried on after that was just a comparison to THAT dress. Go with your gut, but give yourself as much time as you need Smiley smile

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  • Meghan
    Beginner December 2021
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    Hi Ashley,

    The first time I went to try on dresses I went alone, just due to the thought of how overwhelming trying on dresses in general is for me. Anyway, the woman helping me told me that "the one" will be the dress that you cannot stop thinking about. Even if maybe you don;t have the reaction while in the dress. She told me most of the brides she sees do not have the crying, dramatic moment, essentially for entertainment purposes. She was right, the dress I will end up with when I go back with my mom, I literally cannot stop thinking about. Hope this helps and good luck planning!

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    I tried on 3 dresses at my appointment. The third one, I looked down at the embroidery and my chest, and said "yeah. This is probably gonna be the one" looked in the mirror. I was right.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted July 2021
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    That makes me feel so much better! Thanks for your advice!

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