How do you deal with inviting your "B" list wedding guests?

I see no harm nor 'tackiness' in a B-list. I think the brides to be have covered the bases pretty well and eloquently. We've had people RSVP 'yes' only to call us and back out..leaving open the possibility for us to add others that we wanted to do initially. I consider the lists A1 and A2. No one is a 'B' list-er

I made a A B list but it was more for narrowing down who we NEED to invite and those who it would be fun to invite but if there was no room/budget it was okay not to. It really helped get my 200+ list down to 145. As of right now when I send out my invites and people RSVP no I'm not going to add more people that we had scratched off originally, I'll just see it as saving budget $.

B list is a great idea then you can truely invite the ones you wanted to but couldnt because of budget and i would feel like a loser if people dont show up i have a bad feeling people will rsvp and then not show up so scared of my wedding turning out bad

Do whatever works for you. Simple answer. Also, I'm kind of wondering if this really okay to be asking here, since it sounds a little like you're asking questions for your blog.

Honestly, if you're going to do a B list, don't even say anything to anyone about it unless asked point blank.

I wouldn't do a B list, but that's only because I don't have nearly enough people I actually really want there to want to do one. I really can't care enough about my second cousin who I see once every 4 years, or my middle school bestfriend I reconnected with only on facebook. Maybe I'm just cold hearted, but I don't feel bad for not inviting someone just because we're related or they knew me for a certain number of years if we don't talk or interact ever. I also don't care about having a big wedding, or worry about the room being too empty if I don't invite enough people. Some do, and that's fine. Just do what works for you.

I don't think it is tacky at all. Some brides absolutely have no room for their Mom's hairdresser's sister, but apparently she would be offended without an invite!

I always suggest to my brides that they have an A list that has an RSVP date of 10 weeks before the wedding and a B list that had an RSVP date of 6 weeks before the wedding. That way, you are still giving B list guests enough time to make travel/accommodation arrangements, but not giving them any idea that they may have been on a B list.

Also, don't have an A and B list within your office or for different members of the same family. Word WILL get around that so-and-so already got their invitation and "why haven't I gotten mine yet?"

Good luck!

My fiance and I are getting married in November and are in the middle of inviting "b list" people. We had just paid our final deposit when 25 people (essentially his father's side of the family) called and cancelled on us. We couldn't get our money back. The venue said they would offer us "upgraded food and booze" but I wanted to invite more people instead. I sent out an email to friends, family, and coworkers who I didn't get a chance to invite the first time with an explanation of the situation . Within one day I had 25 people who were very excited to come to the wedding and didn't care at all that they were "b list".