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Just Said Yes November 2017

How do you cancel a vendor?

Renee, on November 15, 2016 at 8:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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I have been planning a wedding for November 4th, 2017. In August, i found my venue and put a deposit of $800 down, so at the time, i was very serious about holding my wedding there. The problem, though, is a bit of an emergency. My FH's grandfather, who raised him and took him in when his parents abandoned him, has developed Alzheimer's. It seems to be progressing quickly. He moved into his now home only 5 years ago, and he can't ever remember how to get around it. At first, starting in late August, it was small things, forgetting conversations we just had, losing his keys, but it's gotten much worse. He traded his car in last week, and he called us the next day to let us know that he believed his car was stolen. We have no idea how much lucid time he has left. There has a been a few times he thought our son was my FH, so anyway, we're planning to have something next month, ceremony on my grandparent's dock, and a small picnic as the reception. Cont. in comments

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Latest activity by Ashley M, on November 15, 2016 at 8:55 PM
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    Just Said Yes November 2017
    Renee ·
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    That will be our wedding. I'm not going to go through another wedding to get the big party. I understand why some couples do that, but I just don't see the point personally. How do I respectfully cancel the wedding with the venue? I understand i most likely won't get my $800 back, and I've accepted that. Should i just be honest?

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  • Anna Rae
    Super October 2016
    Anna Rae ·
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    Just tell them what you just said... most likely you won't get the deposit back, but they may because it's so far out still and may be able to schedule another wedding. But just call or email!

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  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    Just be honest with them about what's going on. November is a popular time to have a wedding, I doubt the will have a problem rebooking. So sorry to hear about that though.

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  • OriginalKD
    Master December 2015
    OriginalKD ·
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    I'd reach out over the phone or in person if you are able. People are generally more empathetic when there is a face and a voice behind the story.

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  • O&L
    VIP September 2016
    O&L ·
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    Check the contact first. For example, my venue have a clear contract of cancel by date and money we would owe for loss of cancellation, etc.

    Then you contact the manager at the venue and explain why. Yes be honest.

    You won't be less married because you decide to have a small intimate wedding instead. You wouldn't be the first to move the wedding sooner due to family issue. Good luck!

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  • Ashley M
    VIP May 2022
    Ashley M ·
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    I called my venue and explained we were having financial difficulties and they just gave us our money back since it was still a little over a year out. I'm sure they will understand. It's not like it's a couple months before! They can definitely re book. So sorry and good luck to you!

    ETA My contract said no refunds but they did it anyway

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