Caitlin
Savvy November 2017

how do we keep people from writing rude comments on our non-traditional guest book?

Caitlin, on November 10, 2016 at 2:14 PM Posted in Style and Décor 0 31
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So, my fiance and i decided our wedding colors are black and white, which also happens to be the colors of our favorite sports team. he came up with the awesome idea of a custom jersey with our last name and the number 17, for 2017, and have guests autograph the jersey with official autograph pens! then, we would frame the jersey and hang it up with our other memorabilia.

we have some friends and family members who are fans of the rival team, who would be attending the wedding. i don't care who people cheer for, i just cheer for my team and enjoy the game but some people get intense about it. we are worried some people will write rude messages like "---- SUCK" "GO----" etc. I would honestly be annoyed with this, as custom jerseys are not cheap and I don't think its the time or the place to play up the rivalry or write disrespectful comments.

Do you guys have any thoughts on this? I love this idea but I also don't want to look at rude comments for the rest of my life...

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Latest activity by Katies, on November 25, 2021 at 5:57 PM
  • R&B2016
    VIP October 2016
    R&B2016 ·
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    Are those people close to you? Can you spread the word politely ahead of time? I have to say it's pretty sad you think your nearest and dearest would do that....

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  • Caitlin
    Savvy November 2017
    Caitlin ·
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    SIDE NOTE: I also don't want to come across like I'm assuming all these fans are buttheads, but we have mentioned this idea to some people who actually are fans of the opposing team and they either have admitted they'll do it themselves or they tell us they're going to steal it off the table and burn it. So, maybe we're just being paranoid, but I just sigh and think, c'mon people! It's not that controversial! Just suck it up for a night! lol

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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
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    I don't think you could actually stop someone. Maybe having a "guestbook attendant" stand there and mention that "the bride and groom ask that you sign only your name or well wishes?" You might still get people writing that your team sucks, but you already know that's a possibility! ETA: I have no idea who would want to babysit your jersey, but maybe there's someone who wouldn't mind?

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  • M
    Just Said Yes January 2018
    MARSHONA ·
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    I chose to do the same thing with my colors. I believe it's a wonderful idea. If you feel they will do such a thing then put up a sign asking politely not to do so. Again it is your day and about you and your groom

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Don't do a guest book.

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  • Anne
    Master April 2017
    Anne ·
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    I don't really know how you can control what people write. Maybe just ask the attendant to request that they only sign the jersey - not leave an accompanying message?

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  • BookcaseHat
    Master July 2017
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    To me, "steal it off the table and burn it" sounds like a (lame) attempt at humor rather than an actual threat. Do you really think people who love you, who you have invited to your wedding, would write something rude? Are these adults??

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  • AnewH
    Super September 2016
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    Caitlin I had a baseball theme wedding with rival teams. Our guestbook was a wooden baseball plate. There were a lot of die hard fans at our wedding and most people wrote GoxxxLove, xxxx. I don't think you have anything to worry about. I can see why you are worried, I was worried about little stuff like that too. But in the end people will be there to support you, not their team.

    ETA and the steal it off the table thing (Sorry I commented before I saw your comment) I can understand why you would be worried about that too. We had a lot of people who made jokes about it. That is what happens when you do anything based off of a theme. I still keep to my original post and say, at the end of the day people won't want to hurt you and will support you.

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
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    I think if there are people you know that you honestly believe would deface your wedding guestbook like that, I would seriously be reevaluating my relationship with them.

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  • AlwaysMs.
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    I would highly suggest removing the guest book once people start having cocktails. I have seen a few with either inappropriate or just wonky stuff (three pages of the lyrics of a Black Eyed Peas song), and those contributions ALWAYS came after everyone had a few drinks. So, sign during cocktail hour and then put it away. Other than that, nope that is just the risk you take having a guest book. No one wants to be tethered to the guest book table instead of enjoying the party so don't have an "attendant."

    EDIT: I also think most people aren't doing it to be rude really, they are doing it because they think it is funny at the moment and because their friends egg them on. So while it may be dumb fratty behavior, I don't think there is usually ill will behind it.

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  • FutureHennigan
    Super September 2018
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    ^ agree with @AlwaysMs to remove once drinks start being served. Hopefully, everyone will be in a good mood and not feeling rude. It is a wedding afterall...I would hope that people would know not to be disrespectful. If you are planning to put a sign near the guestbook maybe specify for guests to just sign their name?

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  • TAP
    Master September 2018
    TAP ·
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    If you are that concerned about guests ruining your guestbook I would end up just not having one or doing something different so it is not sport themed.

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  • Erin
    Devoted December 2017
    Erin ·
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    Maybe you could have a cute sign beside the jersey asking for "autographs only"?

    Have your bridal party sign it before setting it out, and hopefully people will pick up the hint.

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
    The Trap Selena ·
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    I highly doubt your adult friends would lack a sense of decorum and be that immature at your wedding. Adults know better.

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  • Jamie
    Master May 2017
    Jamie ·
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    Will you have a guestbook attendant? Maybe they could help monitor the situation.

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    I wish I could agree with La Grosera, but it's a fact-- adults don't always act like it, *especially* once the alcohol flows. I think your best bet is what others have suggested-- try and get everyone to sign early, then move the book.

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  • DestinationBride
    Super December 2016
    DestinationBride ·
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    Our friends did something similar but people signed the matting around the jersey, not the jersey itself. If it is white, it is easier to cover up rude remarks

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    Who are you inviting who might foul up your guest book? It sounds incredibly immature to talk about a sports team instead of the couple, but they're yout friends, not mine.

    If you're really worried about this, skip the guest book. I would hope by the time we're talking about a wedding, the Rah-Rah, Go Team nonsense would take a back seat to a ceremony celebrating a lifetime commitment.

    ETA: Yes, people become more idiotic as the alcohol flows, so do what lots of brides do. Put the guest book out at the entrance to the ceremony, and then put it away.

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  • Private User
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    Private User ·
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    I read a story online, within the last year or so - don't remember if it was a wedding board, reddit?, etc. about a couple who asked guests to sign an adirondack chair. They planned to put a clear finish on it, to protect it. Some smart-aleck drew a large penis on the seat.

    Needless to say, it was the big topic of conversation all night, people took photos of it/on it, and the couple ended up having to paint over the whole thing.

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  • Swin.
    Master June 2016
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    I assume no one will write (I'll use the Raiders for this example): RAIDERS SUCK LOVE, JIM AND PAM. But, you will Definitely see GO 49ERS! LOVE, JIM AND PAM.

    If the second is still annoying to you, I'd recommend a different guest book.

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