How do we include/exclude grandmother's boyfriend?

I think I'd talk to grandma beforehand, a couple weeks maybe. Tell her that while you like Joe you also want some pictures of you with your grandparents. He can be in some family shots, etc, but there will be some pictures he's not included in. Something along those lines. There are better ways to say it, but that's the gist of it.

I suppose that depends on how close he and your grandmother are, and how close you are to him?..

I think you don't need to have him in the processional.. you can say something to the effect of you've only known him for a year, etc. you should include him in some things though. I like Paris' idea.

I'm not close to him at all; I've only met him a couple of times. He seems to be her constant companion. They've gone on several trips together and he has helped her through some health issues. If he isn't in the processional do we seat him in advance where she will be sitting so they can sit together? Is it okay not to give him a bout?

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Geez! Sorry for the multiple posts. I'm a newbie.

Is your grandma comfortable with the fact that while he's close to her, he's not really part of the family? If so, then she should be ok with him not being in some pics, or the precessional, and without a bout (they're used to identify wedding party and family usually).

I would let him walk your grandma back up the aisle during the recessional when family in the front usually walks before guests.

If she's open to the conversation, I would talk to her about his and her expectations for his inclusion with some specific Family things.

Thanks for helping me sort this out. Those are some good suggestions. I guess it will make the whole situation less awkward if we talk to them about it in advance so they know what to expect.