How do I word my destination wedding "save the dates?" ***HELP***

Is it a cruise where you have limited space?

Are you going to have a small backyard picnic like reception when you return home?

Generally you don't requests RSVP's on the STD's... it's just telling people to reserve that date for your wedding. Not sure how you could do this...

That being said, we put our wedding website on our STD's, that was good. "Visit our wedding website for all the details: www.weddingwire.com/janeandjohn

Well I am in Maryland, and 95% percent of my guest who I'm inviting are in California (my hometown). So I am sure if they can't make it to the destination, they probably can't make it to maryland either.

I've also included our website on our save the dates

Can you make your STDs the invitations? I.e., instead of calling them STD's, say something like "We're having a destination wedding on June 1, 2012 in Punta Cana, DR! Please see our website for more details and to let us know if you can come: http://www.----"

On the website, you can tell people that it would be helpful to know ASAP if they are interested in coming or if they know they will not attend, and that you need a final number by whatever date.

Since you need to invite people to a DW so far out, you might as well just make the STDs the invitation, especially since you want a response to them!

Rsvp's are not part of the Save The Date . . . however, once they have been sent - people generally give you an idea if they can make it or not... we are also having a DW so i understand! we are also doing some 'e-blasts' to our guest list with our wedding website and event updates... so i feel like we will have a better handle on our numbers once we get closer... i hope!

Well, I agree with everyone else... rsvp are not part of the save the date process, and everyone that gets a save the date is supposed to receive a formal invitation.

The only 'exception' I could think of was cruise weddings. They only allow a certain number of guest aboard that will attend the wedding and leave the ship before it leaves port. For those kind of weddings you kinda need to send out Multiple invitations and reminders so that you can have a 100% accurate head count (the cruise needs names of those getting aboard the ship and they need ID to get on)

I think you just need to look at your budget and see what you can afford on invitations and stamps, and search for invites in your budget. If you want to save on postage, you can make your Save the Dates postcards and don't use an envelope. You can make your RSVP an on-line or phone call rsvp (and only send the traditional stamped envelop rsvp to the grandparents)

I would just list your website information on the STD and then on your actual website, advise that you need or would prefer for guests to RSVP online.

For what it's worth, we didn't send any invitations other than the website out for our DW. For a DW, you need to get information out more than you need to have formal invitations. Part of the benefit and fun of a DW is that you get to break some of the rules of traditional etiquette. As my cousin said, Emily Post, take a chill pill! It's a vacation!