How Do I Tell Someone I no longer want them as a bridesmaid?

Has she purchased anything for your wedding yet? If so be prepared to reimburse her. Also be prepared to lose her friendship. Have you made an effort to hang out with her?

Another for the list of "Don't pick your bridal party too soon" pile. You say you don't even really talk to this person, so perhaps just invite them to coffee and find out if the relationship could improve between now and your wedding, or if they'd rather bow out of the wedding and your life.

If I was the bridesmaid in that situation, I likely would have already volunteered to bow out, since you aren't that close. I'll warn that there could be fall out from this, but that doesn't seem like it'd really be an issue in this case. Do you want to still invite her to the wedding?

If you aren't super close friends.. just tell her your making your bridal party smaller and be honest tell her that you thought at the time that you and were going to become close but with time nothing has happened sorry about the hurt feelings but its just not working out?

Can't you make the other girl you are closer with your bridesmaid as well and just keep the girl you don't know as much? For her to say yes, you may be closer than you think since someone who is just an acquaintance may have just politely said no considering the work and cost involved in being a bridesmaid. I'd probably consider just having an additional bridesmaid rather than asking the other girl to quit...

This is why I'm not picking my bridal party for a while. I'm still once the fence and new friends come in.

If she's bought things you will need to pay her back but most of all you need to be honest.

I am in the same boat except the girl I asked was a really good friend of mine for a whole then she moved ten miles away and always wanted me to come up to her house, which I don't mind if she made an effort to come see me too. I'm not even sure she really wanted to be a bridesmaid because when I asked he she said " if you want me to, sure" and now I want her as a guest and not a bridesmaid. I don't know how I'm going to tell her. Sorry I wish I could give you some advice.

I dont understand why you would pick someone you dont know and why she would even accept... if she hasnt made any effort to be in touch since, you may be in luck that she was too nice to say no! Do it sooner rather than later, and be honest. I like April's wording too.

Well I would love to just have the other girl as well to spare her feelings but my fiance has had a hard enough time thinking of 3 to be in the party. I might actually just have to cut her and not even invite the other friend to be a bridesmaid, our wedding is very small and he has only thought of 2 people for sure, still iffy about the 3rd person.

You don't have to have matching numbers in your bridal party, so if you'd rather keep them both and have your FH have more or less than you, so be it. The important thing is to have people who love and support you standing with you.

View Quoted Comment Hey Raylynn!


So I know this is from a long time ago, but I am in the exact same situation! Did you ever figure this out?

View Quoted Comment I’m in the same situation too I don’t know what to do! X