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Dedicated October 2008

How do I deinvite someone?

Fiona, on September 29, 2008 at 1:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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So my guest list is a little out of control. But who isnt? So there is a girl that I invited that I want to deinvite. She was on the b-list but I bumped her on the A list because I was inviting everyone that i work with to the wedding. I been at this work for over a year now and only met her like twice. She is the back up girl if people call in sick. Since there is only 4 of us at the work place, I invited her so she didnt felt left out. Now she just quit work, actually fired cuz she called my boss the b word and the c word, so i was wonder should I still extend the invite of the wedding or deinvite her. More than likely she wont come because I invited her to the shower and she never RSVPed. So pretty much im deinvitng someone that i hardly know, dont work with any more, caused issues at work with our great boss, and only invited her because everyone else was going. How do i deinvite someone?

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Laura · on September 29, 2008 at 1:50 PM
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Tell her that you are limited in space and money and more family decided to come than you had counted on so you have to cut corners. I'm guessing she already has an actual invitation? Guess you'll have to do the awkward call or if you are lucky you can do an email. If an extra person doesn't make a big difference in your venue ( that would surprise me though!) Then I guess you could take the gamble of hoping she just won't show up. Sounds like she won't but it's still a gamble. If you really wanna save money and cut her out then use the excuses I mentioned so you don't hurt her feelings. I doubt she'll be surprised. Good Luck!
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Christina · on September 29, 2008 at 3:30 PM
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If you have already sent out the invites, I think it would look extremely rude to un-invite someone after you have invited them. You should never invite someone out of pitty anyway. If she didn't make it to your bridal shower, she may not even make it to the wedding either, in anycase I hate to say it but you may have to with it.
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Expert September 2008
monarchmom · on September 30, 2008 at 6:21 AM
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If she never RSVP'd & never showed up to the shower I would venture to say she won't attend the actual wedding. When is your RSVP return date? Keep your fingers crossed that you do not get a reply. I can't believe she would have the audacity to actually show up, since the only people she would know would be the people at your job & she was FIRED for pete sake! Hopefully she has enough sense to uninvite herself! (LOL)
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Dedicated October 2008
Fiona · on October 1, 2008 at 4:39 PM
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The last day for RSVPing stated on our invites is this Sat. Oct. 4. We are not meeting with the cater till the 16th. So between 4th and 16th I will be calling people for their rsvps. If she does rsvp by the 4th, I will not be calling her afterwards. The calls will be mostly geared towards family members. We have to pay for 50 people no matter what. The number for yes is 40ish. A couple of them are kid yes and we get them for free. I love our caters! I was very poed when caters were charging me a full head ($50-$150) for a 3 year old.
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