How did you/will you ask your bridesmaids?

I made my girls some nice cards with funny personal info inside :-) They all loved them and said yes of course. There are a million creative ways to ask! It gets your creative juices going!

I wasn't creative at all lol I just asked them each in person if they'd be my bridesmaids and, thankfully, they said 'yes'. It seems other than asking in person, cards are fairly popular/cute way to do so. You can personalize them through designs and the wording. Good luck!

When we called my kids to tell them about our engagement, we asked my daughter if she would be maid of honor, and my son if he would be best man. My daughter accepted. My son refused on the ground that a best man is a groom's attendant, and we were notably lacking in the groom department. He eventually agreed to be dude of honor.

I am a bit wary of the cute cards, only because I have seen so much drama when the bride thinks the attendants are supposed to be communicating regularly, helping with DIY projects, throwing a bachelorette party and a shower, etc., and the attendants think they are only supposed to show up on the day. If you want your attendants to do more than show up on the day, it is a good idea to let them know your expectations before they accept.

@KenWay, I like your idea, I'm still researching.

@2d Bride, you're right, I already thought about that, and my MOH and I already talk about it, once I let everyone know, we'll have a little get together to talk about plans, expectations, etc... and everyone will give their input or backout if they need to. Thanks ladies

I have to admit, I was so excited to ask people that I did a mass Facebook e-mail and blurted it all out. Kind of wish I would have been more inventive about it, lol. Anyway, the bridesmaids cards are a really cute idea! I saw one that said on the front "Will you be my bridesmaid?" And on the inside it said "I promise I won't make you wear an ugly dress."

2nd Bride is right though, make sure your BMs know what you expect them to do before you ask them. Very, very important.

I made up a cute poem (just re-worded for the MOH) & printed out on nice cardstock, matted it. I found each of them a neat picture frame that suited them individually. Also found these great silver hearts that hang from a ribbon that have different "friend" sayings etched on them. Put them together & in gift bags. I handed them out to each girl when we were alone. I wanted it to be special for each one of them!

Well, I called my girls to tell them I was engaged and the wedding date and invite them over the phone. And they each said a resounding yes. Then when we decided a few more details (like 4 days later--I was on speed planning), I texted them to invite them to be bridesmaids. Not really creative, but none of them live in the same time zone that I do, so we only communicate via phone/electronics. They sent text messages back. One was out of the country, so I emailed her, when she got back and went through her backlog of email, she found it and called me and we chatted a bit and decided she would be day of coordinator instead of BM.

@Star, lol I got you with the facebook thing, I've been struggling with the whole waiting to tell people thing, I'm super EXCITED and can't wait till we finally tell them, somedays I feel like posting the whole thing as my status or start calling everybody.

@betnjohn, you really went alll out, i like the gift bag idea, very thoughtful

@Genevieve, I understand, I have one out of country as well, not sure how I'm gonna tell her, I know she may be in tought for xmas, if i have everything ready by then, I'll be glad to do the cute thing, if not, I'll still to email/phone with her.

Well we got engaged on a thurs, i called everyone on Fri and let them know eccpect his mom i saw her and i was like well on thurs me and FH want shopping and i showed her my ring and she was like oh my god is that i what i think it is, i said yes he asked me thurs and i called to tell you, but u never called me back, so she called everyoe and told everyone. When it came to my BMs i just asked them and they were really excited and said yes and to me the sooner you ask the better so you can start looking for dresses and choose what you want cause i just want to my dress store and she told my BMs to order their dresses by jan cause they are in the march orders already and my wedding isn't till sept

I printed up a pretty piece of paper that basically said "Courtney, I love you to pieces. Will you be a bridesmaid in our wedding? Love, Rosie," then used spray adhesive to attach it to a piece of foam paper, used spray acrylic to protect and harden the paper, cut it out into about 15 jagged pieces, stuck a magnet on the back of each, and wrapped it up in pretty packaging. They all LOVED putting the puzzle together and it's on each of their fridges now.

Aww you gals are cute! I wasn't gonna be that creative, I'm just gonna take them out and buy their lunch (or dinner given schedules) and ask. :-)

Everyone in our families know but I haven't formally asked anyone to stand by myside on my special day... I have decided to do cute cards and then have them all meet me for a lunch and a girls day.... at the beginning of our girls day we will go to lunch... then we will be going dress shopping... I will try on a couple and find"the dress" (it really won't be the dress) ill ask them to try on a couple bridesmaids dresses... as they do so I will have cards that explain that I want them in my wedding each card will have a "diamond" ring and a little basket with a cookie, and some candies in the dressing rooms as they walk in they will find!!! I will be doing it next october to next november... maybe a little earlier depending on some people!!!! The guys are going to come over for a "game" night and they will be asked then

Congrats on your engagement!! okay, so if you go on weddingish.com, you'll see such cute bridesmaid cookies tht you can give them as you ask...good luck!

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For the most part I never asked!!! I told them I was engaged and they started talking about what dresses they wanted.... they always knew they would be my MOH & BM ... my neices and sister I asked but my friends just assumed... LOL

I used these super cute cards from Etsy. All of my girls watch Say Yes to the Dress so they loved them!

http://www.etsy.com/listing/56141231/set-of-5-please-say-yes-to-the-dress

@Kristina that is so cute i love that show