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How did you deal with a far away venue?

Jessica, on September 16, 2019 at 9:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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My fiance and I are considering a venue (ceremony and reception) that's an hour away from where both our families live (we're from the same area), and I'm curious to hear what others have done when there venue was far from their home base. If you had the rehearsal an hour away the night before, did you and your families/wedding party stay in a hotel that evening? Or did you drive home after the rehearsal and drive back the day of? Is it rude to ask our families to drive that full hour? The reason we're even considering the venue is because we've looked at a lot of venues closer to us and just seem to keep striking out.


  • Marissa
    Dedicated October 2019
    Marissa ·
    My family and my fiancé and I are staying in a hotel the night before. Our venue is about an hour and a half away. His family is all traveling from out of state and they are staying in an air bnb
  • Megan
    Super November 2020
    Megan Online ·
    I don’t think an hour is unreasonable. If you think about it, many people commute an hour to work.

    If people don’t want to drive back and forth, you could find a hotel in the vicinity. That’s what we’re doing, as our venue is about 1.5 hours from home. We (and the bridal party) will be staying there the night before (rehearsal) and then the night of the wedding.
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    My husband and I got married at a venue a little under an hour from where we live. I am not from the same area as my husband. My family lives an hour and a half away from us. My guests were anywhere from a 1.5 to 3.5 hour drive from the venue, with 2 guests who flew in. My husbands guests were all within an hour of the venue except for one couple that flew in. My family and guests stayed overnight. His family and guests did not. I don't think it's a big deal to ask people to travel an hour. They may not be thrilled but it's not the worst. Definitely get a hotel room block close to the venue.
  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
    We’re getting married an hour & a half away from where we live (10 minutes from FH’s hometown & 2 1/2 hours from my hometown)! My family and wedding party (excluding the groomsmen that live in the area) will be staying in a hotel the night before and several will be staying the night of the wedding. I don’t think it’s rude at all to get married an hour away! I didn’t want to get married in my hometown, and the area I live in is 2 1/2 hours away from my hometown also, so my family and hometown friends were going to have to drive 2 1/2 hours to either location!
  • G
    Dedicated June 2020
    Gabby ·
    We're getting married in the city about 45 minutes to an hour away from us. We are staying in an air bnb a few days before the wedding to get flowers and decorations ready for an easier transport.
  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
    Mary ·
    Our destination wedding was a four hour drive from our home (same for the vast majority of our guests). Most people made a weekend of it and attended our welcome dinner on Friday and wedding on Saturday. Some started their drive the morning of our wedding to attend the ceremony and left the reception a little early to drive back.

    We regularly attend weddings that are a one hour drive and don't think that's unreasonable at all. 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·

    Depending on how unique the venue is, you could always consider doing your rehearsal where you live, and not travelling the hour to the venue. Due to their weekday hours not lining up well with a rehearsal dinner timeline, we're not actually rehearsing at our venue - we rented space at another location near the restaurant where we'll have dinner, will rehearse there, and then walk to dinner.

  • R
    Devoted October 2019
    Roxana Online ·

    We're in the same situation as you and are getting married this October.

    We plan to take 2 cars to do a rehearsal the day before and will bring along at least 1 bridesmaid/groomsmen. We will also be dropping off our decor.

    Then, we plan to drive back home and do a rehearsal there with all of our wedding party since we all live in the same town. We'll also feed them at the house afterwords and have a little party.

    THEN, we all wake up at 6 A.M. the next day and book it to our venue to get ready and will begin the ceremony at 10 A.M.

  • Melissa
    Rockstar September 2019
    Melissa ·
    An hour is not a bad drive at all. Our wedding is a minimum of 40 minutes for any of our family members and there has been no issues. We are also doing the rehearsal there as well. I will be staying at the hotel that night as well as some other family members. I would let your guests decide if they want to stay the night or go home.
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·

    We purposely picked a venue far away from everyone's home. I prefer weddings where everyone is in the hotel, it feels more like a whole weekend rather than just a wedding day. Our venue was 1 hour from our house and my mother's house, 2 hours from my husband's parents houses and several states away from my father's house. Out of 124 guests, 80+ stayed in our blocked hotel. It made it way more fun!

  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·

    We chose a venue that was an hour away for almost everyone. It was a good middle ground between my family and his family, and it was also a change from what everyone else here does when they get married. We didn't have any negative feedback on our venue choice, people were happy if anything. We had our rehearsal the morning before due to the venue having another wedding the night before, which meant everyone involved had to take the day off of work to be there with us. We were so grateful for that and in no way required it; we could've made it work for those who missed it. And again, almost everyone who went to the rehearsal told us they were planning on taking off the day before anyways, so it worked out. Most of the our family/wedding party stayed at the hotel the night before the wedding, but a few drove the hour back and forth.

  • Abigail
    Just Said Yes February 2020
    Abigail ·
    We’re having a destination wedding in Cancún, Mexico. Some people will come from US, Mexico, and Argentina mostly. Many are coming on Friday (the wedding is on a Sunday), so we’re having the rehearsal on Saturday night. I don’t think it’s rude to ask them to come specially if it’s only an hour away.

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