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Crystal
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How did you ask your bridesmaids to be in your wedding?

Crystal, on April 27, 2016 at 10:47 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

I haven't asked any of my friends to be a bridesmaid in my wedding yet, i'm trying to decide on a cute way of asking. How do you all pop the question to your friends to be in your bridal party? If you presented them with gifts do you have photos of those? If so I would love to see them and hear some of your ideas.

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Latest activity by Jersey, on April 28, 2016 at 6:39 AM
  • Kristy
    Master November 2015
    Kristy ·
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    Someone started a thread with almost this EXACT title like an hour or two ago. It should be easy to find. Better to join that one than start a new one as people who responded there may not respond here right after.

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  • Crystal
    VIP September 2017
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    Second part to my question...We are not getting married until September 2017. Is it too soon to ask my friends to be bridesmaids? Or is now a good time?

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  • Kristy
    Master November 2015
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    Too soon Smiley winking A lot can change in that time.

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
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    I know you're probably super hype to do it now but it's too soon. Your relationships with these people might change before then and it could get uncomfortable if they change not for the better.

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  • Beutivant
    Master May 2016
    Beutivant ·
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    YES. Too soon. In just the six weeks I have been on WW, I have seen countless stories of women who have had a falling out with one of their BMs and some even want to replace them! It's easy to think "we've been friends for ___years. Nothing is going to change now." But I assume they felt the same way. There is no harm in waiting to ask.

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  • The Royal Blue's
    Super July 2017
    The Royal Blue's ·
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    This is what I'm doing in August but I'm asking my sisters and best friend so my wedding party kinda already knows.


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  • The Royal Blue's
    Super July 2017
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    This is what I'm doing in August but I'm asking my sisters and best friend so my wedding party kinda already knows.


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  • The Royal Blue's
    Super July 2017
    The Royal Blue's ·
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    This is what I'm doing in August but I'm asking my sisters and best friend so my wedding party kinda already knows.


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  • OG Sarah
    Master September 2017
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    I'm not planning on asking until a year out, but I'm probably just going to ask them whenever we hang out. I'm not a fan of big bridesmaid proposals- I like the idea of keeping it simple.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
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    I said, Hey do you want to be my BM? I hate the stupid proposal crap.

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
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    I went to go to my BFF's house and over a BOTTLE of wine I asked her if she would be my MOH lol.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I love all this cutesy stuff so I made bridesmaid boxes, balloons, and wrote them each a handwritten note about how much I love them which made everyone cry lots Smiley smile


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  • Erin
    Expert August 2016
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    Personally I just asked. But I do love the cute boxes, it's just not really me/ my bridesmaids.

    I would strongly advise you to wait and ask individually. For waiting, scroll through the fist few pages on WW to see why that's a good idea.. There's tons of threads that thoroughly cover it.

    Ask for asking individually, you give people more of an option to decline/ talk about money etc.

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  • E&M
    Master July 2016
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    Yes it's too soon. I just asked.

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  • YouCanCallMeDot
    VIP January 2017
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    Took them to dinner and gave them each a note I had written. I would wait a little longer.

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  • Heather
    Dedicated October 2017
    Heather ·
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    I made these cards and charm bracelets for them. They had a heart charm that said bridesmaid then just a couple other cute charms I found at Joanns. I'm getting married October 2017. However I already asked mine. I think you will personally know when the time is right to ask. My group will not change considering they are either family, soon to be family, or best friends that I have been friends with since high school and elementary school. Ask when you want. And when you feel it's the right time. I knew my group long before asking. I fully understand people saying to wait for risk of it changing but it definitely depends on your group.


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  • Crystal
    VIP September 2017
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    Im

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  • Lisa
    Devoted October 2017
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    I haven't asked yet on purpose. Lots of my closest friends are trying to get pregnant. I'm having a destination wedding so I'm going to wait about 7 months out. I don't want someone to feel obligated to accept even if she will have just given birth before or will shortly after. A wedding is one day and a child is a lifetime. Traveling with an infant isn't easy and neither is being 7+ months pregnant.

    I'll be happy no matter what so that's what matters.

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  • Joanna
    Dedicated May 2017
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    I made them personalized jewelry boxes with a personalized handkerchief and a little poem I found on Pinterest. My flower girl 'proposal' was similar where I sent her a poem and a book about what being a flower girl is since she's 5 and has never done it before.

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  • Spidel8
    Super October 2016
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    I'd wait a little bit to ask your bridesmaids. A LOT can change between now and then. I got these super cute cards off of etsy. One said 'Will you please hold my dress while I pee?' And another said 'I'm holding your responsible for making all of my Pinterest boards come to life' or something to that effect. Then they had 'Will you be my BM/MOH?' On the inside. I wrote out little notes on the inside about how much each of my girls meant to me. They loved it!

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