How did long-term relationships change after wedding?

Honestly how you fight is totally different for us now. We used to get into stupid BS fights and now it's kind of like we're stuck together anyways no reason for it to bother us. We fight but it's done and over as quickly as it started.

ETA: I think we are in a good spot in our relationship and we are definitely in the commitment stage.. and pretty close to the co-creation stage. Not always but most of the time. Just wondering what it'll be like once we take the plunge, compared to what we have now.. Since we aren't one of those couples that got married after 3 months. We've worked out most of our kinks and are a partnership.

I don't think the relationship changed, but how the relationship is perceived by others did. When I talk about him as my husband, outside people understand what that relationship means. I feel like when I talked about him as my boyfriend it just didn't carry the same meaning.

I feel the same way as Natalie. And we didn't live together before the wedding, but somehow that wasn't as huge of an adjustment as I thought (but still in progress!).

Definitely agree with Natalie. Although I was a young bride and look younger than I am, so I also get a lot of "are you old enough to be married?" Other things that changed: my mom doesn't have a moral freak out over us living together and we can sleep in the same bed if we're at my parents'. Having the same last name makes it much easier for either of us to do things like take the cats to the vet, change our renters' insurance or cable that's only listed under one of us. And it gives us more options for health insurance. Other than that, I don't think it's really changed how we interact, other than that we're just over a lot of the little stuff. I accept that his socks are never going to be in the hamper and I'm going to be picking them up off the floor for the rest of my life. Some of that might just happen from living together for a while though.

ETA: and I guess I feel like we're more of a unit. Before we were married, my thoughts were like "we'll be a family when we have kids" but now I feel like we're a family already, without kids.

We communicate better than we did before...we're also a lot more affectionate than we were before the wedding. I guess the "newlywed phase" is a real thing!

Maltese--- do you go through another newlywed phase after you get married, even after you have been together a number of years? I know I seem much more affectionate even now that we have gotten engaged, because I am happy that he does want to get married (he was very hesitant about marriage since his first one was such a disaster.)

Stop with the baby mama crap.

Ours did change but not much. We were already living together prior, so I would say it was the communication that changed the most. Also agree with above poster in that our fighting changed. we don't argue over dumb stuff and really appreciate what we mean to each other. Decisions and changes wholeheartedly became ours vs mine.

Following - FH and I been together for 10yrs and have 2 kids, this is a question that I always ask myself. Will it change? How??

Everyone keeps asking us how it feels to be married. Both of us respond "Same way it did before"

We were together just over 6 years when we got married. I've heard from many people that for them it felt the same, but for us it has been different--better and totally AWESOME. I really do feel like a newlywed. I look at my husband with renewed eyes, like I did when we were dating. I can't get over how handsome and kind and funny and helpful an amazing he is, and how he's mine Maybe it's because I've known basically since we started dating that I wanted to marry him and the majority of the angst (at least on my part) in our relationship was the fact that we weren't married. Oh, and the sex has been way better. I know it's supposed to be the opposite, but not for us.

Our has been pretty much the same. We ended up getting married 3 months early due to my father being ill so we have a little different of a situation. 2 weeks after we got married my father passed and during the whole marriage so far we have been remodeling our bathroom. Married life has been amazing minus losing my father. Throughout the entirety of my father's illness my DH has been so amazing. He took care of my dad, helped lifitng him, changed diapers, talked to him. Dad kept asking where DH was if he wasn't there. He has been amazing and that makes me so happy that I got to marry him earlier than expected.

Everyday he says, good morning/night my beautiful wife. It is a great feeling. As with most things, I am sure some of this will fade, but it is really great. FIL has been over everynight helping with the bathroom remodel, and it is nice seeing him as well. DH and him are so much alike. FIL is such a sweetheart to MIL, I see where DH gets it from.

Random days when I am sad about dad, DH is like" what do you want to do, I will do anything so you aren't sad anymore." It really is a great feeling.

All of the people I knew who lived together before they were married say that the only thing different is their last name.

We will have been together for over 5 years, we have been living together for 3 years, and we own a home together. I don't expect much to be different.

VMD - Same here - a few years ago though?? LOL we wanted to kill each other. I mean we still do at times but not nearly as much as when we were younger!

I'm curious how it will change too. We're going on 6 years and I feel like nothing will but my last name.

DH and I got married just before our 10th anniversary and had been 'shacking up' for 6 of those years. The biggest change for us was the shift from, "Hey, look-- we've been together since we were 16! We've done a great job!" to "OK, if we don't make 'till death do us part', we blew it." The other big realization for me was that I was now his 'closest relative'-- if he got sick, I couldn't just turn to his mom and say, "Deal with this!" it would be my job to step up and handle things.

I am wondering about this too. We will be getting married days after our 10 year anniversary, and have been living together for about 1/2 of that time. I anticipate not much changing other than how others view the seriousness of our relationship. I will be so happy to be his wife and no long just his long time girlfriend. I feel like people respect you and your relationship more as a wife than girlfriend. Society for sure does in the legal system with all the things that change when you are legally married.

FH and I have been together for 8 years, we bought a house, and we will be moving in together next month. I already know things will change because we will argue about stuff we never had to deal with before. I am dreading this actually.

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