How can i feel like a bride when i have no support?

View Quoted Comment Haha, thank you I’ve been getting so much support since I signed up for WW that I never thought I’d ever get! Y’all are amazing.

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Thank you, we changed into pirate outfits for our pirate reception!

You really have no friends who want to celebrate with you?

I'm sure there are people who love you just as you are other than your fiance. If your fiance is truly the only person who you feel values you, then I'd have other concerns. It isn't fair for either of you for one person to rely so heavily and solely on the other partner. Do you work? Do you hang out with anyone other than your fiance?

None of my closest friends live near us and most of the people we regularly hang out with as a couple are really from my FH's friend group, so some of the bridal stuff has felt really lonely. However, I have coworkers and friends within my FH's friend group that are really excited for us and people have stepped up in ways I didn't expect. One of my coworkers coordinated some others to go to a bar with me after work to celebrate our engagement. The wife of one of the groomsmen went wedding dress shopping with me when I couldn't find anyone else. My coworkers came over to see my dress and give me feedback about shoes when my best friend and mom couldn't accurately get an idea of what I was struggling with from cellphone videos alone. Some friends I'm not particularly close with helped connect me with a stylist to do my hair and makeup and have offered to come with me for my trial. This of course doesn't replace what it would be like to have my mom and best friend around (they live several states away and my mom doesn't travel and its very difficult for my best friend to get time off), but I'm not really alone even if it feels lonely sometimes.

I think sometimes you need to open up to people to let them in. But I seriously doubt there isn't anyone in your life other than your bride-to-be who wants to celebrate with you. Yes it isn't the same as having people close to you be involved, but if you are open minded you might find that celebrating with others can build beautiful new friendships.

View Quoted Comment Yes, we are aware that it’s unhealthy to not have other friends and it’s a thing we are working on, so it’s not for lack of trying. However, I have an illness that causes me to lose my memory, which isn’t conducive to making friends as people generally want you to remember things they tell you to build a relationship. She has a few friends, but none she would consider inviting to take part in our wedding (mostly they play cards together; I don’t think they’ve done anything else).


I do work part time and while all of my coworkers are nice, I wouldn’t consider any to be “friends”- we don’t speak or see each other outside of work. I’ve told them about my wedding, of course, but they aren’t a part of my life and I’m not a part of theirs, so it’s just something to talk about. They tell me about their children’s school plays and graduations and I don’t think they’d expect or want me to do anything for those.

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Well its good you are both trying to expand your social circle, and I can see how the memory thing would make forming and keeping friends challenging. Are you trying to do bridal stuff that you are keeping from your bride-to-be? I know some couples make a lot of wedding decisions together whereas others like some surprises (like keeping their outfit a secret until the day of). Would involving your bride-to-be or her family be an option? It sounds like you are likely having a smaller wedding anyway, so there may be a lot that you can do together, and if there is just a thing or two you want support with that you want to keep from your bride, maybe her family could help and it could be a way for you to build your relationship with them.

I'm sorry you are feeling unsupported, but I'm glad you found someone who makes you feel loved and it seems as if you both have her family's support. Best of luck!