How can i feel like a bride when i have no support?

Sorry your family did that to you. Try to rely on the friends you do have and get excited with your future wife! You've also got a whole family here on Wedding Wire to ask questions to or to help pump you up for your big day!

That's really unfortunate that your family would push you away. Just remember it's their loss. I totally agree with Jessica. You have a whole family here to rely on. Your pre wedding events, should you still decided to have them, will still be amazing just like your fairytale wedding day! Best wishes love!

I am so sorry your family did that. That is really appalling.
As the others have said, we talk weddings all the time here and will support you. Does your fiancee have family that is supporting you? Colleagues who are excited? Sometimes we need to build the family we deserve.
Congratulations on your engagement!

View Quoted Comment She’s got a great support system with her family, which is absolutely wonderful. However, they still seem unsure about me, and while they’re supportive of the wedding they just don’t feel like family yet? Other than that, I have no colleagues or friends to support me.

I'm sorry you have to go through this happy time on your own! I know it's not the same, but do you have any close friends or co-workers to share the day with? I wasn't disowned, but most of my family has passed on so I didn't have many people at our wedding. It is hard I know

I think for a lot of women, wedding planning can feel unexpectedly isolating because as we grow up, we’re fed a lot of media about how weddings are such a bonding event for women. But not everyone has that traditional family/friend structure that’s built around events like weddings, babies, etc. And you know what? There’s nothing wrong with that! A lot of my closest friends are non-traditional/don’t give a rats ass about weddings. And honestly, I didn’t either until I got engaged. There have been times where I’ve gotten bummed out when I realized that I was kind of going at this on my own, and I know there was are other women who feel the same way. Like other posters have said, there’s a whole community here and also, you’re getting married!!!! It’s so exciting and fun! Chose to focus on the things you love about planning and disregard the traditional activities that make you feel isolated. Maybe you don’t have a close group of friends now to celebrate with, but maybe that’ll change in 5 yrs and you can say “Look honey, I’m taking my bachelorette this year since I didn’t get the one I wanted 5 yrs ago.” Just because an event is part of the traditional wedding structure, doesn’t mean it fits where you are in your life right now!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much- I literally just signed up for WeddingWire an hour ago and it’s already helped me so much. Y’all are great!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so, so, so much. You made me cry. Thank you.

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You're very welcome. Congrats on your engagement!!! I'm excited for you and what's to come.

Share all your excitement with us! 🎉


I was 40+ when I got engaged and although my hubby & I were super excited over details and I didn’t share much, I felt I missed out on the 20-something experience that seems to be hyped up in magazines & movies. It’s ok. Enjoy the planning with your fiancée! Friends & family may or may not be the support you need. Your wedding is for you & your beloved. 💕

View Quoted Comment Aww, thanks also, your wedding picture is a-mazing!

View Quoted Comment Of course! Can’t wait to see your fairytale wedding vision come to life. 💐


Aw, thank you! That’s the fun with a non-traditional wedding. You do what fits you & your partner best. In some ways, it’s a blessing isfyour family isn’t overly interested/controlling because you get to plan the wedding of YOUR dreams. 😃

I feel you, fellow librarian!! No one is interested at all in our wedding other than to show up and party. I’m just enjoying the feelings with my fiancé and I’ll enjoy celebrating with everyone day of. But if you need family, I’m happy to make you an honorary member of mine. We take everyone 💕

View Quoted Comment You’re so sweet, Susan! I hope you have an absolutely amazing day!


What kind of librarian are you? I’m adult services in a public library.

View Quoted Comment I’m a director of a small rural library. 📚 I do it all, soup to nuts!!

View Quoted Comment Amazing! I hope you have an amazing wedding and many happy years to come

I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way during, what should be, one of the happiest times in your life. As the others have said, we are all here for you on WW anytime you need us! And as someone who just married her wife 3 months ago, I am specifically here for you anytime you have any same sex wedding questions! Try to enjoy this wedding planning time and use it to get close with your fiancée’s family. They will now be your family 🤗.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Meghan

Hi Audrey, I’m so sorry your family reacted that way, and that you’re now feeling like this. That is completely valid and understandable. To echo PP’s, we’re here for ya, girl! 💕

Girl come to NY we can have a bachelorette party together lol but seriously we are here for you if you need any advice or to vent.