This is primarily for the couples who, like us, are paying for the entire wedding themselves. I need advice and ideas, pretty please!
My partner and I live in NYC, so there's no way in heck we were going to drop literal tens of thousands of dollars for one day. That's insanity, and we can't afford that.
So, we found a venue a ways away that's far more affordable and is mostly inclusive (food, decorations, etc are baked into the cost). That said, we're doing the math now, and we're currently looking at spending close to $27,000 for the entire event. 🙃 The goal was to stick to $15,000!
So, some background information. We do not have anyone in our circles that owns enough land or space for us to just use their area for the event. We already have cut our guest list to 60 people max. I'm trying to get it down to fifty, but the fiance has a larger family than I do, so it's a little difficult.
I already bought my dress--a sample sale for $350. My fiance is planning to rent a suit.
I've suggested we consider a full cash bar. We had originally discussed doing an open bar but only with wine and beer. I've also suggested we do like a Costco cake or something similar. Literally nobody is going to remember the cake, and I just want it to taste good lol. We're not doing a huge afterparty or rehearsal dinner. We might do something informal for both of those where everyone pays for themselves if they want to attend. Frustratingly, out floral vendor has a minimum of $2,500 for us to hit, so I'm trying to get us to right around that number so we're not spending any more.
The DJ was relatively affordable at around $1,400ish. The photographer is only going to be there for about three hours because we really aren't people who care about having a wedding photo album. We're likely never going to look at all of the photos after the event anyway.
For decorations, I'm probably going to DIY as much as I can with the help of my amazing bridesmaids. They're far better at crafts and are much more artistically inclined than me. One bridesmaid has also very generously offered to do my makeup for me, so that's one less expense.
But outside of that, I have no idea where else we can cut costs. It's gotten to the point where my fiance has said he needs to think about if he's willing and able to spend this much money for an event that'll last only a day. I don't blame him at all; I just wish he had decided this before we put down deposits on our vendors.
So what are ways you guys are cutting costs? How do you think we can make this more affordable?
Please no unhelpful comments like, "weddings are always expensive," or "have your family help pay." We don't all have the luxury of having family that can help, and we don't all have the ability to fork out thousands of dollars for one day, regardless of what the day may be.