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Cassi
Super October 2019

How about some humor- Worst wedding you've ever been to!

Cassi, on August 1, 2019 at 4:31 PM

Posted in Wedding Reception 82

So I was bored and scanning these forums and came across a thread from 2012 asking about the worst weddings you have ever been to. As I was reading these it triggered so many things that I was curious what everyone else has encountered. Instead of reviving a 7 year old thread I figured i'd start a...

So I was bored and scanning these forums and came across a thread from 2012 asking about the worst weddings you have ever been to. As I was reading these it triggered so many things that I was curious what everyone else has encountered. Instead of reviving a 7 year old thread I figured i'd start a new one lol so I'll start.


The worst wedding I ever went to was a 4th of July wedding. I'm not huge on holiday weddings because if you break up that holiday becomes a bad memory for you (my aunt got married on new years and this is what happened to her and she hates new years now). Anyways holiday wedding luckily i had off but 4th of July fell on a Tuesday that year. I was a bartender at the time so my schedule didn't much matter but I'm sure there were other people not thrilled with this considering the wedding didn't start until 7pm. Some major things I remember:

1.)The worst thing I have to note is we were never made aware we had to pay to park. They chose a hotel close to downtown (which I enjoyed because we dipped out eventually and just hit bars) but they never informed us that to park on site of the venue it was a $20 parking fee because the hotel was also being used for 4th of July events. So we turned around and had to hit a bank to get money to pay for parking.

2.) B&G opted to do this at a hotel with a smaller banquet hall, while the venue was nice it definitely wasn't big enough for their guest list.

3.) Because it was so late they didn't do a real meal so all the food was appetizers (shrimp, toothpick sausages and things like that). Not a huge deal but ehh....

4.) Open bar that we were not told about until an hour before it closed.

5.) cake never showed up (not their fault but still didn't help with everything else). So bride was freaking out throwing a huge fit.

6.) no sound system so couldn't hear anything

7.) I don't think they really thought much through (it was pretty rushed) so it was all open seating which was a mess... and even after I found a seat for me and my "date" for the night we were bombarded with people surrounding us because there wasn't enough seating so people were hovering tables I didn't want to get up for fear I'd lose my seat.

8.) invitation didn't specify attire but after speaking with B&G I was told formal.. when I showed up I was so over dressed it was unreal and uncomfortable.


Lets hear yours guys! lets help future Brides and Grooms with some big no-nos lol

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  • Justine
    Super July 2019
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    The worst wedding I've ever been to was a wedding we drove 6 hours for. It was a friend who I used to call my "best" friend, but we drifted apart but I still was happy enough for her to see her get married. Anyways, the wedding was on New Years Day in a suburb of Chicago. Outdoors. At night. In the dark. IT WAS FREEZING!! I have never been so miserable at a wedding ceremony in my LIFE. The wedding party had heat lamps in this gazebo but the guests had NOTHING for warmth.

    I also had to sit at a table with my now husband with people we didn't even know. The bride barely said two words to me either! So yeah. Worst wedding I've attended.

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  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
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    Not bad, but very odd. Second cousin's wedding. At the time I was 8 or 9 and he was 18. Shot gun wedding (not judging) and didn't have a lot of money being so young. At the end of the ceremony, the minister stated, "And now the bride and groom would like to invite you to a pay for yourself reception at the Old Country Buffet." My family went. It was strange.
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  • Rachel
    Expert September 2019
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    Believe it or not, some ceremony spaces don't allow/provide for seating. My own ceremony space was like that, and we got a verbal promise that they'd make an exception for us. My mistake--I should have gotten that written down or in an email. AFTER we paid our non-refundable deposit, of course she claimed that this had never been stated. I know I am not mistaken because we want our guests to be as comfortable as possible and we NEVER would have booked someplace without seating!!

    Well, we finally compromised and I was able to get seating for the elderly/handicapped in the group, but others will have to stand. I HATE that, but we were already locked in. I am sure people will find reasons to call my wedding tacky, despite how I'm doing everything I can to make it comfortable for our guests.

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I have to split up families like that.. mostly because each household has way too many members and I can't fit them all at one table. Or if I can fit them in one table, I end up with over half the table empty, which means I need to add another family. No big deal,right? but that family that I'm adding?? it doesn't fit in the empty spots. Seating charts are hard; especially when both sides of the family don't know each other. I'm not separating everyone by age range, but I will have kid's table and I did have to split up some households, especially because there are some people that live in the same household that do not get along at all. I rather split them up than deal with the drama.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    That is very unfortunate but I would not call that one feature making your wedding tacky. I get it if the venue doesn't offer it but most of the stories I've read about this happening are B&G trying to save money on rentals which I get BUT if you have the ability to provide seating you should. Unfortunately you do not have the ability to provide it so thats different in my opinion. Its usually backyard weddings that opt to not have seating and that was more so what I was thinking. I have also heard horror stories of B&G asking their guests to bring their own seating. We are doing a barn wedding and will have full seating for our guests. I am very sorry to hear about your venue backing out on verbal words. I have had that happen 1 to many times for my liking so now I make sure I do EVERYTHING in writing.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    That happens to everyone. i don't think the comment was intended to say the issue was splitting family up because of seating issues. The Bride decided to split families up according to age which I think is weird. Trust me I have a very large family, lots of nieces and nephews. Its one thing to have a kids table and one thing to split up groups of people but normally the intentions are finding spots where people fit and adding odd ones in to fill the empty seats. thats very normal in my opinion, I have a number of tables like that. But splitting up families because say mom and dad have two kids that are 15 or 16 but instead of trying to keep them together you put the 15 and 16 year olds at a table other than with their families just to separate by age. Like I said I don't think the comment was intended to say its bad seating families apart in the sense that I ahve 6 siblings, they are all married, I could never sit them all at the same table with their SO's and kids so I have two tables allocated to siblings but yes there will probably be another guest and their SO at that table.

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated February 2020
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    My worst wedding experience was my FH’s cousin’s wedding. It was destination for his entire family (including us), and we paid a fortune for plane tickets and then to rent a car to drive the extra hour to the small city where the wedding was held. Then, we had to pay $300/night for the hotel blocked room. After all that travel, the bride and groom did not say hello to me or every acknowledge my presence at all. And the wedding was relatively small (125ish), so it would not have taken much effort. In fact, the bride never said as much as a “hello” to ANY member of her husband’s family except for his parents and brother. It was... strange. And made me feel resentful for spending that much money to go to the wedding and not even get a “hello.” Made me realize I need to prioritize saying hi to every guest and at least thank them for coming.
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I agree, it's a bit odd to separate people sole for the reason of age. My frustration wasn't wasn't with what the post was saying per say, it was more with how ridiculously difficult/complicated seating charts can be. Trying to make sure everyone is seating with people that won't make them totally miserable, accommodate complicated family dynamics, but yet making sure you're not breaking some obscure seating etiquette. More headache than its worth in my opinion, but god forbid that you have open seating because then its chaos lol. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one splitting families up to make them fit though.

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  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
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    This just literally made me laugh SO HARD LOL hahahahhaha

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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
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    The last wedding we went to was the biggest s*** show I have ever seen... First off, it started 30 minutes late because the person they hired to do the cake, never showed and the brides brother had to run to Walmart to get a cake and cupcakes... Her DJ was horrible, nobody danced all night until the brides mom literally yelled at all the guests. Half of the bridal party left right after dinner... not enough seating... it was awful. On top of that we got them a really nice gift and it's now been almost 4 months and we haven't gotten a thank you...

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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Hahahaha same.

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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
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    Worst wedding?

    I was in the wedding party.

    I literally go off the plane and walked into a massively heated argument between the bride and her future mother in law... about the placement of a bow.

    Two days before the wedding the best man "broke off" the friendship and was no longer attending the wedding, so the duties of best man were now left up to me.

    The cake maker dropped the icing on the floor when trying to ice the cake the night before after the rehearsal dinner. Had to find a sober person with a car in a strange city to find a super market to buy ingredients to make more icing.

    Ended up till 3am working on icing etc... at 3am, walked the cake maker back to the reception hall covered in powdered sugar. Then walked back on my own at 3am through Baltimore, I was thinking that I was gonna get jumped by a junkie who was looking for another "party"

    During that time, the groom proceeded to drink excessively and ended up in the ER with alcohol poisoning.

    The bride's car had gotten broken into.

    More fighting.

    Bride got cold feet and needed to be "talked down off of the ledge".

    It was a horrible time. All I remember is lamenting to myself that I was so far away from my home and my own bed.

    (Fast forward - they are now divorced. Go figure)

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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
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    Hahahaha!!! Not all of us in Western MA are "hicks", but lawd help someone if they show up to my wedding in jeans!

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  • Madison
    Dedicated June 2020
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    It wasn’t a bad wedding, just very disorganized and did not have a plan for rain. They put 200 people in a place the size of a normal garage. There was no dj so we had no idea when things were going to happen. The couple also cut the cake in private so no one saw that. Also the ceremony was at 7:30 so by the time it started and ended I was starving and claustrophobic.
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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
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    OMG. Out of all of the one's on this thread so far.. this one wins! Best of the worst

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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
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    And I forgot to write that the "new" icing that we worked so hard on basically slid off of the cake because the AC at the reception hall died!

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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
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    Oh I know. Lol I grew up in the city but FH is from a small town and some of his friends are definitely pushing the limits on the hick meter. Lmao I feel the same way about the jeans. This isn't a hoe down! 😂
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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
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    Hoe DownHow about some humor- Worst wedding you've ever been to! 1

    It's only a hoe down when I trip and fall after cocktail hour at the open bar...

    (I will of course play it off like I was dancing... you know how it goes)

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    Ouch! A potluck for 150 people? What was she thinking? I guarantee people didn't show because of that.

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  • Ashley
    Super October 2020
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    My sister did the kidnapping the bride to avoid doing the dollar dance. the bridesmaids all went to the bar across the street and did a shot together with her.

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