Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Cassi
Super October 2019

How about some humor- Worst wedding you've ever been to!

Cassi, on August 1, 2019 at 4:31 PM

Posted in Wedding Reception 82

So I was bored and scanning these forums and came across a thread from 2012 asking about the worst weddings you have ever been to. As I was reading these it triggered so many things that I was curious what everyone else has encountered. Instead of reviving a 7 year old thread I figured i'd start a...

So I was bored and scanning these forums and came across a thread from 2012 asking about the worst weddings you have ever been to. As I was reading these it triggered so many things that I was curious what everyone else has encountered. Instead of reviving a 7 year old thread I figured i'd start a new one lol so I'll start.


The worst wedding I ever went to was a 4th of July wedding. I'm not huge on holiday weddings because if you break up that holiday becomes a bad memory for you (my aunt got married on new years and this is what happened to her and she hates new years now). Anyways holiday wedding luckily i had off but 4th of July fell on a Tuesday that year. I was a bartender at the time so my schedule didn't much matter but I'm sure there were other people not thrilled with this considering the wedding didn't start until 7pm. Some major things I remember:

1.)The worst thing I have to note is we were never made aware we had to pay to park. They chose a hotel close to downtown (which I enjoyed because we dipped out eventually and just hit bars) but they never informed us that to park on site of the venue it was a $20 parking fee because the hotel was also being used for 4th of July events. So we turned around and had to hit a bank to get money to pay for parking.

2.) B&G opted to do this at a hotel with a smaller banquet hall, while the venue was nice it definitely wasn't big enough for their guest list.

3.) Because it was so late they didn't do a real meal so all the food was appetizers (shrimp, toothpick sausages and things like that). Not a huge deal but ehh....

4.) Open bar that we were not told about until an hour before it closed.

5.) cake never showed up (not their fault but still didn't help with everything else). So bride was freaking out throwing a huge fit.

6.) no sound system so couldn't hear anything

7.) I don't think they really thought much through (it was pretty rushed) so it was all open seating which was a mess... and even after I found a seat for me and my "date" for the night we were bombarded with people surrounding us because there wasn't enough seating so people were hovering tables I didn't want to get up for fear I'd lose my seat.

8.) invitation didn't specify attire but after speaking with B&G I was told formal.. when I showed up I was so over dressed it was unreal and uncomfortable.


Lets hear yours guys! lets help future Brides and Grooms with some big no-nos lol

82 Comments

  • Molly
    Super October 2020
    Molly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Went to a wedding that was at fire hall which was okay not the greatest. What was strange was a guest who had a dress on that had no underwear on. It was knee length so when she danced her dress went up. Let's just say I left early.
    • Reply
  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    That is odd... I would want to be with people I'm close to. My siblings and I have a pretty significant age range and I would still like to sit with them even though we aren't in the "same age group"

    • Reply
  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Oh lord.... When I was in highschool I went to prom with my then boyfriend and this girl dancing near us must have been on her time of the month and there was just a stench of blood and blahh it was gross. I felt bad for the poor girl but definitely took me off the dance floor.

    • Reply
  • S
    Devoted September 2019
    Sara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    The bride (who is alllllll about the drama and attention) went to the hospital an hour before the ceremony was meant to start. So, everyone is worried and panicked about her, then her MOH bursts out, “It’s because she forgot her morning sickness medication.”

    That’s how we found out they were expecting. I have no issue with couples having sex and babies in and out of wedlock, just how the day went down. The bride definitely got her big entrance.

    They were getting married in an atrium-ish area of a hotel. We stood around for hours in the lobby, wondering if the whole thing was even going to happen.

    It finally did. Her brother walked her down the aisle in jeans, a shirt he didn’t bother tucking in and sunglasses.

    The ceremony space was this atrium near the hotel bar, which had “The Cave” in neon lights right behind the altar. The Cave was built out to look like an actual cave. Imagine like a Rain Forest Cafe minus the fake rain and thunder sound effects.

    Odd choice to say the least.

    The reception was perfectly fine, though. Decent food, open bar. Everyone got both chicken and steak, but there was a ton leftover and they wouldn’t give us any boxes. They were going to throw out all that food! One particularly creative cousin got the idea to take home leftovers in a favor box.

    It was a day wedding, though, which I’m not a fan of. You party hard and then it’s 3PM and it’s over. We ended up napping after the reception and all waking up hungover and then some of us went to a catastrophic dinner, where half the group was late because my grandmother gives horrible driving directions (“Just take any north-south street south!”). We waited forever for our poor, lost out of town guests. This was before GPS was super common. To this day, we don’t let Grandma give directions.
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I've thankfully never been to a bad Wedding but my friends caterer was two hours late... And we started the whole thing late. So we were all starving.
    The bride's parents and my parents went to a nearby grocery store and bought a bunch of cut fruit and veggie so we had a cocktail... Hour and a half.
    In theory we'd finish the ceremony then go right into the buffet being in a big hall.
    When my vendors ask what I didn't like about the last wedding I went to I say food was two hours late and they all get this horrified look, it's pretty funny.
    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    We went to one for friends of FH. We live in a "hill town" in Western Massachusetts. People are a lot more laid back and some are borderline "Hicks" for lack of a better word. Lol We dressed up slightly and when we arrived, we realized we were so overdressed compared to everyone else. It was embarrassing! Half the people were wearing jeans and t-shirts or something you might wear to your kids school concert rather than a wedding.

    It was outdoors under a tent in September on a mountain so once the sun started to go down it got really cold. It was also a farm on a kind of busy road and parking was across the street in a field. The ground was pretty uneven so the chairs and tables didn't sit right. They didn't have any seating for the ceremony so we all had to stand while they were married in front of a barn (which wasn't very pretty and had a tractor next to it). I don't even remember what the food was and their bar was random people with a folding table and coolers (not knocking it being inexpensive but it could have been set up better). The dancing was awful and the music was way too loud. We stayed through dessert then went home.
    • Reply
  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    That’s completely fine. But making your guests pour their own wine from a paper box is tacky & rude lol. When I saw that at that wedding I was like “ummm you’re kidding” haha.
    • Reply
  • Bridget
    Devoted October 2019
    Bridget ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Let me start by saying I love the couple!
    Almost everyone had to travel as the wedding was where the couple lives but they both relocated there. All good- my mom and I got to explore the new city in the morning before the wedding. We walked ALOT so we could eat wedding cake- yay!!
    The ceremony was nice however they are atheist and a wedding without any mention of God is weird to me. A friend sang a song which we didn’t understand the words, it’s apparently a broadway song called Origin of Love but we thought they were saying organ of love and were singing about naughty parts. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I know this is all on me and not overall bad.
    The city I was from was in the playoffs for a major sport. A sport the groom loves and even plays. Half the people at the wedding were from the city and very interested in the outcome of the game. The bride said there was to be absolutely no talk of said game at the reception. Had the dj been allowed maybe every once in a while to give a score update everyone would have been happy. (this was before espn updates and everyone having phones) sooo most of the wedding party wandered away from wedding up to rooftop bar at venue that was open to public and watched the game. And actually it was a beautiful day out and the venue was very dark and heavy so the rooftop was lovely.
    Then there was no cake!!!!!!!! They had a gelato bar. But you had to go up to the bar and ask for it and very few people realized it. I know the bride and groom were very excited to do the gelato bar but I really can’t tell the difference between that and ice cream - just a fancy name and more money.


    • Reply
  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    I've heard this way too often! Why do so many B&G opt to not have ceremony seating!?!?! I get some ceremonies are super short but still. Let your people sit.

    • Reply
  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    That sucks! I started getting nervous because we aren't doing a cake.../ we don't like cake. We are doing custom donuts. Donut bar where you get to pick your icings, toppings and sauces. So i'm pretty excited for that. We have since decided to offer a cookie cake (stacked a few layers) and cupcakes for people who really don't like donuts. But yeah this makes me nervous. i love the thread I started though lots of good tips to keep in mind.

    • Reply
  • Bridget
    Devoted October 2019
    Bridget ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    I’m sure a donut bar like that will be visible so it sounds fun. The problem with the ice cream was it was behind the bar- because it needed to be frozen. So a lot didn’t know. Then there was the added problem of people wanting drinks and the bartenders having double duty of gelato scooping and drink getting. I’d NEVER say anything to the couple but it was a mess.
    I think the donut bar sounds awesome.
    • Reply
  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Gonna keep this as short and sweet as I can, and just start by saying I absolutely adore the people who got married (even though the bride hasn't said a word to me since the moment we showed up to this wedding...why? no one has a clue) so it's not like she found out what I thought of the "production" and got mad. ANYWAY.

    We drove 5 hours to go to this wedding. The hotel screwed up our reservation. Fought with them all night about random things. We were told of a welcome party for out of town guests that started at 8. By 10:30, the couple had not bothered to show up. Ceremony was in a part of town where - if you didn't know the area already and know the shortcuts - you had to drive through a HORRIBLY high crime area just to get to the ceremony. Ceremony space was full of windows - beautiful, but it was probably 102 degrees inside. Mind you, this was February and we all had coats, jackets, etc. Huge gap between ceremony and reception, with nowhere to go (again, unless you already knew the area) to get a bite to eat or keep busy. The reception was at this "secret club" which - once again, you had no idea how to find unless you knew the area. There were no signs, and we drove around the block literally 20 times until we pulled over to pull up our google map and accidentally found the parking garage. Got inside: roaming saxophone player for the cocktail hour - following people around and making everyone uncomfortable. Got inside, the tables were all behind GIANT PILLARS so we couldn't see anything. After the long break between the ceremony/reception, we expected dinner. We got....a tiny piece of meat and a half salad. The bar was in a separate room and no one could find it. The dessert was in the elevator hallway. The bathrooms were 3 floors down and there was ONE elevator - a service elevator. The DJ played nothing but 90s hip hop and never once slowed the tempo down. (Grandma was PISSED.) The bride didn't even bother to say hello to us, even after we hunted her down. (And no, it wasn't "busy bride" stuff - it was deliberate.) At one point, the DJ got up and left the room for 45 minutes. The bar ran out of alcohol and just closed with no warning - we had to go down 3 floors to the other bar for a drink. We ended up leaving early - hungry, cranky, and realizing that we could have just not shown up and they wouldn't have noticed. Got back to the garage to get our car (free valet) and they dented it. Whatever. Went back to the hotel, ordered a pizza, inhaled it (we were STARVING) and left as early as we possibly could the next day. Later heard that there was also supposed to be a wedding brunch at the hotel that - big surprise - the couple didn't show up to. Five hours of driving in post-blizzard weather to get there, 5 hours driving home, all for a wedding that we both thought was a colossal waste of a weekend!

    I'm sure there are pieces I'm forgetting, but that basically sums up the experience.

    • Reply
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Oh my, that wedding you described sounds super awkward! I hate people crowding my personal space.

    I've posted this on another forum, but the worst was my cousin's wedding. She got married at a shooting range. During the outdoor ceremony, you could hear gunshots in the background!

    • Reply
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Oh my goodness, poor girl! She should have taken note from Kate Middleton and had weights sewn in the hem

    • Reply
  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    That is just unbelievably awful.. I can't believe the bride and groom just didn't show up to the pre-wedding or post wedding events! Also, I don't like long breaks in between ceremony and reception to begin with, but at least have some sort of something for your guests to do. At least suggest bars along the way you can hit.. Dang

    • Reply
  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    I bet a lot of people actually liked the gunshots lol

    • Reply
  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I’ve got plenty, but here are a few…
    1.) My friend’s wedding ceremony was 2 hours late because she forgot her shoes at home (which was an hour away). For some stupid reason she felt the need to get them. Of course, to this day, I don’t know what her wedding shoes looked like.
    2.) Another friend got married at their church and there was no dancing allowed in the church hall. So the reception was slightly awkward with no music and people just sitting and eating. Of course, there was also no alcohol to help make the time pass by less painfully.


    • Reply
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    I'm sure a bunch of the guests didn't mind Smiley laugh I was not one of them

    • Reply
  • Abbey
    Dedicated September 2019
    Abbey ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    The “worst” I went to, wasn’t awful or anything because of the people and who was getting married. It was great being part of their big day but if we’re telling stories....

    1) It was about 85 degrees and humid that day. Would have been okay except that the venue had no air conditioning, including the dressing room where we got ready. It was so humid that the people who did get their makeup done had to redo it themselves because the heat and sweat was turning their face a weird muddy color.

    2) Food was awful. It was a bbq buffet and everything was not only cold but tasted like it had been out for too long and had spoiled - it was all sour. The buffet staff did not even serve the bride and groom!

    3) Bar ran out of a lot of mixers very very early into the reception.

    4) Dessert bar was sparse and the catering staff (same people who did the buffet) was refilling it with frozen dessert containers from the local grocery store.

    5) Cake fell apart because of the heat. Buffet and dessert bar caterers were also in charge of this. Apparently they had no refrigerated company van, so the cake melted on the drive over and a chunk fell off. Unfortunately they didn’t even bring icing to fix it so someone had to cover the whole side with flowers to try to salvage it.

    6) Wedding was in a barn with a concrete floor and didn’t allow glass. While it makes sense personally plastic plates and silverware at a wedding are tacky. But that’s just my own preference, it really wasn’t bad and was the least of the worries that day.

    7) Since the venue came with literally nothing in it decorating was left up to the bridesmaids and bride. The morning of me and other bridesmaids showed up to get makeup and hair done and first ended up having to sweat and finish decorating the venue for at least 2 hours. That being said it was such a busy day that the bride did not make a point to eat or let her bridesmaids eat, so after not eating all day we were starving and the alcohol we had during cocktail hour hit us pretty hard.

    Like I said though, I think apart from the food situation it was what they wanted and we were very happy for them. All things aside at the end of the day it was still a success since two wonderful people were able to get married.
    • Reply
  • 8Bitbek
    Devoted October 2020
    8Bitbek ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I hate to say it, but the worst wedding I've been to was probably my brother's. I liked the color, but I wasn't a huge fan of the bridesmaids dresses my SIL picked out. I wore uncomfortable shoes and my feet were killing me all during the ceremony (my fault). What stood out to me the most, though, was the reception hall they chose prohibited dancing of any kind and that's usually the fun part of going to a wedding in the first place.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics