Hosting next day breakfast/brunch

I don’t think you need to host something, but if this is part of the hotel I’d leave it to the hotel to let people know. If you mention it somewhere or talk to people about it, I think it’s likely at least some of those people will think you’re hosting.

If you can't host but want to leave the option open, just casually let your people know you'll be hanging out there for breakfast. Debating on having a welcome party the night before since it is technically a DW and we weren't planning on having a rehearsal dinner.

It's not required at all and shouldn't be expected. Unless you're putting something in the welcome bags/rooms with dining options nearby, I honestly wouldn't even tell people of the option. They'll look up breakfast options on their own and decide where to go. Unless you can have it at your house or someone's house and just bring in simple breakfast platters where you can probably feed everyone for like $200, I would just skip it altogether and go have breakfast on your own that morning.

We are planning on a brunch the next morning that will either be hosted by us or FH's family (they mentioned it once but no follow up quite yet), but my parents are paying for the whole wedding so we can afford the bill for just that. Plus we are going to do something simple at someone's home for an "open house" feel rather than a formal brunch.

We were in this situation too. We were definitely planning on hosting a brunch, because I also thought it was a nice thing to do and maybe even expected. But we just couldn’t find any good options - our hotel doesn’t do a breakfast buffet, and was going to charge us A LOT to set one up. Other restaurants in the area couldn’t really do anything for a reasonable cost either. So we eventually decided to skip it - our hotel is in a downtown area with lots of restaurants/cafes in walking distance, so people can definitely find breakfast if they’re hungry. We also decided to include Starbucks gift cards in our hotel welcome bags with a note saying to grab a coffee on us for their trip home (there’s a Starbucks across the street). We figure that’s doing enough!

All in all, I think a brunch is nice if it works out, but not required. If it’s not in your budget, don’t worry about it!

It’s not necessary to host. If you want people to have the option, just send a text that morning and say “hey, we’re having brunch at the hotel restaurant if you’re still around and want to join us.”

We plan to do a next day brunch before we head off on our mini-moon. We are inviting bridal party and out of state guests. Like you, we can't afford to pay for everyone, so we are letting them know that this is an event that they will have to pay for themselves and we completely understand if they cannot attend. You might get mixed opinions about this, but a lot of this will have to do with your crowd. Only you know your crowd, and I think most people wouldn't be offended in any way as long as you are upfront and honest about the intentions of the brunch. For us, we thought it'd be a nice way to "end" our awesome wedding weekend (friday: rehearsal / dinner, saturday: wedding, sunday: brunch).

Thanks everyone! If it was something that would could afford or even if it was something that had an exact price, rather than a very wide range of what the cost could be, i would love to host something the next day. I will probably do what you guys all mentioned about giving suggestions on places around or letting them know they are more than welcome to join us, but the price is on them.

I don't think it's rude. I think you've done enough hosting your guests the night before and also if you are doing a rehearsal dinner. Don't worry about it.

Common practice in our circle seems to be picking a hotel with a free breakfast for the next morning. It's definitely not top notch but it serves the purpose. Every one of the family weddings we've been to has had their block at a hotel that does this, so we did it too. One less thing for me to have to worry about.

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I like this.

We didn't. We had a fair amount of out of town guest, but we were tired. We just threw this huge party. I was done. I wanted to sleep and hang out with my MOH's while I could. I know we were invited to lunch with my in laws and his out of town aunt and grandmother we both said not a chance.

I figure people are adults. They know how to find food.

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This is what we chose to do, too. Free hotel breakfasts serve the purpose.

We're just writing on our wedding website and putting a note in our welcome bags that "we'll be at the hotel breakfast at [xxx time] and we'd love to see you before heading off on our honeymoon!"

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Stealing the idea to add this to the wedding website!

I've never been to a wedding that hosted one, and my mother has only been to one (it was a smaller wedding). I wouldn't worry about it! I never expect it at weddings, even when we are out of town guests.

I'm not even going to read the comments, because some people can be so rude sometimes, but I would just like to say "If it's not in the budget, it's not in the budget". It's not a malicious, 'you aren't hosting because you don't want to, or because you are above it' or anything like that, it's simply finances.

I honestly, 100%, from the bottom of my heart, believe that if you didn't host, no one would be upset.

I personally am doing a 'meet and greet' dinner the night before, and everyone is invited (25 people). They are covering their own meal. My SIL did the same the night before her wedding. No one complained. It's okay to not do the age old traditional stuff sometimes.

Good luck with what you choose.

It's definetely not a requirement!!

We're doing a next day brunch but we aren't paying for anyone. We put on our wedding website that we'd be at XXX location at 10:30am for brunch if anyone would like to join and that the it is "pay your own way". That way it's not an obligation, for you or them!

I don’t think it’s expected to pay for everyone’s $20 breakfast after hosting them at the reception. If you are going to have breakfast at the hotel and you would like to see your guests for you go I would just let everyone know you’ll be having breakfast and hanging around the hotel. I wouldn’t let people know they’re “invited for breakfast with the couple” but I would share your plans and say would be great to say goodbye if they plan to eat the hotel as well.

We’re putting our money into a welcome party. If we do a brunch thing the day after the wedding, it will just be “hey we’ll be around in the morning in X place if you would like to stop by before heading out”

We don’t plan on doing this, because we’re having a brunch wedding. With the reception ending early in the evening, we can choose to spend time with our out of town guests afterwards for drinks or just at a home that night. Most of my family is local anyways, so it will mostly be FH’s family that would be OOT, and they’ll likely come up early and do something with us the week of anyways. I don’t think it’s necessary/poor etiquette.

As the parents of the bride, we thought a lot about hosting something the day after -- a brunch or maybe a lunch -- especially for OOT guests. I kept in touch with guests as they were booking flights/planning their trips and started to realized that people were leaving at all different times (some as early as 6 am Sunday morning), so ultimately, we decided not to organize/host anything. We were really glad we did NOT plan anything. Honestly, we were all exhausted the day after. Daughter and new SIL came by the house around 1 after they checked out of their hotel, ate a quick lunch of leftovers and wedding cake with us, packed up the gifts and stuff that we brought home with us following the wedding, and then they headed home. One couple (OOT relatives) "stopped by for a few minutes" Sunday and stayed 7 hours.... I did my best not to be rude, but I was barely conscious, wrapped in a blanket, in the recliner the entire time they were here. We went hard for three days -- the rehearsal & welcome dinner for ~50 people was Thursday, Friday was a spa day with the BMs and a long lunch with some OOT aunts, and Saturday daughter and I left for HMU before 6:30 am and FOB and I weren't home after the wedding until after midnight. By Sunday, we were completely fried.

Every wedding I've travelled to has had some sort of complementary breakfast available to see the bride and groom the next day as out of town guests. This is sometimes the free breakfast the hotel offers that the bride/groom just say they will be there for, or if that isn't offered then it is a hosted breakfast. I can't remember the last time that wasn't provided - so yes I do expect it if I'm traveling.