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Honoring Parents during the ceremony

Amanda, on November 20, 2018 at 9:28 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 3

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Realized I was logged into the wrong weddingwire account so I'm sorry I've posted this twice.

Hey everyone, I'm having trouble figuring out exactly how to word it in the ceremony script to honor our parents. My fiance and I both have lost our dad's, not recently though. We both still have our moms, and his mom is remarried. My mom is not remarried but she was after my dad and that man she was married to has functioned as my dad for 20 years now and is giving me away in the wedding. Needless to say, I can't go with the traditional script for honoring the parents bc most are geared towards parents that are still married. Does anyone have suggestions for how I can word this section to make it special to both our deceased dads and our living parents?

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Latest activity by Maren, on November 27, 2018 at 10:34 AM

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Maren · on November 25, 2018 at 5:47 PM
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Hi Amanda! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement!
Perhaps you can modify the original script for honoring parents to be more suitable for both of you? Will you be hiring an officiant to conduct your marriage? You could talk to whomever is conducting your ceremony and see about making a special moment for both your deceased dads and your living parents, as I am sure they might have some helpful recommendations for wording and flow in your ceremony script.
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Amanda · on November 26, 2018 at 8:31 PM
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Hi!! Thank you ♥️, I've looked at the original script several times trying to figure out the best way to reword it but I've come up with nothing so far. The man conducting our ceremony is a close personal friend of my fiance and I both that got ordained specifically to marry us so it's not something he's handled before either. I was hoping someone had a similar situation (hoping for that really isn't the right phrase due to the situation as it is I guess) or input for how to beautifully address this part of the script.
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Maren · on November 27, 2018 at 10:34 AM
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That's great that this close friend is marrying you both! I see what you mean though . I have a few ideas for you from weddings I have seen:
You could include some framed pictures of those who've passed, to be placed somewhere in your ceremony & reception venue, perhaps on a table. You could reference these photos of those who have passed who are being honored and how you wish they could be here today but you are so thankful for their impact on your lives today, and then proceed to thank your living parents, too, introducing & thanking them.
Another idea, I have seen is a rose ceremony. As you are introducing, thanking, and honoring your parents, you could have a vase of roses to honor them all (potentially even alongside the photographs mentioned above), handing a rose from the vase to your living parents who are present.
Both of these ideas are just ideas and might give a setting, small ceremony, and specific time for you to honor all of your parents. The wording of it is completely up to you, as you can reference photos, introduce your living parents, and express your gratitude however you feel is best! I hope this helps.
Discussions in our Community:
Honoring parents in ceremony - Rose ceremony example
Honoring parents passed? - Others ideas in the comments for how to honor their parents
(some situational differences but just a few more ideas)
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