Honoring Deceased Relatives

We are having our flower girl carry 3 white roses in her basket, and the officiant is going to mention the the bride and groom would like to honor 3 special people who are no longer with us, and she is going to walk up and put them in a vase near the stage

There are 3 loved ones that won't be with my fiance & i on our wedding day and i was thinking about having 3 white ballons with their names on them and we could let them go into the air during the ceremony

We're going to have the preacher say this during our wedding:

Join with me as we bow our heads to observe a moment of silence to honor the memory of those who are not with us today, but are here in spirit. (Pause briefly) Amen.

My something blue is a necklace my uncle wore during his life that i'll wear on my day. he was a second father to me.

my grandparents and great grandmother are all gone, but i only had a relationship with 1 of them past the age of 11, so i'm not sure i'm doing anything. feels weird to only include the one and exclude the rest as far as grandparents.

But, my uncle meant the world to me, so it was a different relationship.

I had my brother's and my initials hung from my bouquet, a tiny photo of him in my pocket, a seat at the ceremony with his name (there was supposed to be a rose there, but didn't happen) and had the band play a song dedicated to him that he used to play on the clarinet. I wore my grandma's pearl earrings and her mink coat when it got cold.

I am having a table with 3 roses, and 3 candles on it. One for each person who can't be there. And then a song will be played at the reception in remembrance.

I am having a bouqet charm with a picture of my biological dad and a single red rose down in the center of my bouqet to represent him. I'm also using some of my great grandma's old jewelry in the bouqet. I am trying to choose between the pieces. At the reception I'm dancing with my grandpa to the song my biological dad used to sing to my mom.

I had seats reserved for my grandparents

My FH is deceased and he didn't want to feel sad so he didn't want anything done that was big. That is one reason we are not doing a unity candle. I wanted to put a 8x10 photo of her up at the altar with a candle but that was going to be too much for him too. So we finally will put a poem on the back of the programs to honor her. I thought it was a touching poem:

If Roses grow in Heaven,

Lord please pick a bunch for me,

place them in my Mother's arms

and tell her they're from me.

Tell her I love her and miss her,

and when she turns to smile,

place a kiss upon her cheek

and hold her for awhile.

Because remembering her is easy,

I do it every day,

but there's an ache within my heart

because I am missing her today.

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@Thumbelina, I really like that idea and I would like to do something like that for my brother also, I was wondering where you got those initials.?

I am doing a Remembrance Table in the narthex of the church. I will have a floral arrangement, candles in our wedding colors and place cards with our deceased loved ones on it (my parents, FH's father and brother). They may also set up a table in the hallway of the reception venue as well.

My stepson got marred. His mom is deceased. His dad is now married to me. At the wedding they had a large picture of his mom in a chair with her name next to my husband and I was assigned to sit on the other side of my husband. So his late wife on one side of my husband and me on the other. I was not comfortable with that. Was that appropriate? Am I being too sensitive? My family says it was mean and the picture should have been elsewhere to be acknowledged. I would love some other opinions who are not biased.

Both my parents are deceased, we wanted to honor them along with my husband's grandfather and friends we had both lost. Most of the poems I found online were too depressing so I wrote one myself (and had it copyrighted). We had his sister and niece read it while our string quartet played.

Ancestral Song

When we started on our paths

So many rains ago

A need was there for helping hands

To set us on our road

Lessons learned from those we love

The village did their part

Composing all their strength and light

Into many grateful hearts

The tune of love and knowledge shared

To teach us right from wrong

Each note would flow in harmony

Their own melody in song

Time has passed and we have lost

Great loves along the way

Family who raised us up from kids

Friends we played with every day

Though they no longer walk in step

We can’t see them by our side

The love that they instilled in us

Will forever be our guide

So on this day of happiness

When two become as one

Let’s pause to honor those we loved

Their song will still be sung

- Wendy D. Granger, copyright 2017