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Honoring Deceased Brother at my Wedding

Private User, on June 29, 2015 at 8:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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Hello all, I haven't posted much and have spent most of my time on here lurking but I am a few weeks away from our date and I'm struggling. My brother passed away a few years ago and I really want to do something to honor him at our wedding. I have Googled tons on the topic but I haven't found anything that has really inspired me. The traditional "leaving an open chair" thing seems a bit intense for me. I am looking for something meaningful but more subtle. Even though it's been years it's a little raw for some of my family and I don't want to upset anyone on what's supposed to be a happy day. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. P.s. I'm not a troll, just honestly looking for advice. Thanks

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Latest activity by Dana, on August 20, 2019 at 11:04 PM
  • Angel_D
    Master October 2015
    Angel_D ·
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    Im having a bouquet charm made with a photo of my dad on it. that is my way to honor and remember him.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    Hello. Both of my parents were deceased when I married, so I did the following:

    Wore my parents' wedding rings on my right hand.

    Had a picture frame charm of them on my bouquet. And the bouquet was wrapped in a blue handkerchief that belonged to my father.

    Had a picture of my parents on their wedding day on a table near a picture of my husband and me.

    The photo charm is subtle, as is wearing of the jewelry.

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  • Jackie
    Dedicated August 2015
    Jackie ·
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    I'm so sorry for your passing.. Maybe you could attach a photo charm of your brother into your dress, or bouquet? I think this idea is perfect, it'll be like he's there with you. (:

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  • P
    Savvy July 2015
    Private User ·
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    Thank you for the help. The photo charm does seems like the best option. I was toying with that idea.

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  • Kimberly
    Devoted November 2016
    Kimberly ·
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    My sister passed away a few years as well. She was killed in a car accident along with my nephew just a couple months after her wedding. I am going to be taking a small piece of her wedding dress and having it sewn into mine. Her dress had some red accents so Im going to be using that to make a small heart to be sewn on the inside of my dress. Do you have any of your brothers old clothing you could do something similar with if you wanted?

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  • OGSue
    Master August 2016
    OGSue ·
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    The empty chair is definitely intense, a personal reminder for you of him is probably the best way to go.

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  • StarFromIHJ
    Master August 2016
    StarFromIHJ ·
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    Perhaps a family photo table, with pictures of everyone in the family. Thats what I'm doing to honor my mom.

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  • K
    Devoted June 2015
    KeitaiKT ·
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    I have a similar situation to you, OP. I had a little table on the corner of the reception room with a few framed photos of my brother, a small floral arrangement, and a candle. It was subtle and not too intense. Also didn't take away from the festive feel of the reception, I don't think.

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  • AlexisM082
    Master February 2016
    AlexisM082 ·
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    I'm having a piece of my dad's favorite jacket sewn into my dress in the shape of a heart. I'll also have a small memorial table with his picture as well as a charm on my bouquet.

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  • ChildressAtLast
    VIP June 2016
    ChildressAtLast ·
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    What about a lit candle that has a card in front if it honoring him? That's what fh and I are doing for our deceased loved ones.

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  • Dana
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Dana ·
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    I know this is a new comment on an old post but I plan on having my brother’s husband walk me down the aisle holding a pic of my brother. I might have my dad on my other arm.
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