Honorific Title for Sister Not in Wedding Party

What about Mistress of Ceremonies?

Is there any particular reason you are only having your MOH instead of having a MOH and BM?

I just want to keep it small and not have a bridal party.

I think you need to make her a bridesmaid. I'd be super upset if my sister did that to me. There;s no pity title you can give her.

2 people to avoid hurt feelings/ jealousy is not a large bridal party and a way better option in honoring her don't you think?

I think you should make her a BM. Even if your FH only has a best man, there is nothing wrong with having 2 on your side and 1 on his. If I was the sister not included in the wedding I'd be really hurt

She's not reliable and we have a bit of a storied history. At least with this job if she flakes out the day of the wedding I know someone else will be able help out. I actually didn't stand up for her wedding, she had a friend be her MOH and my oldest sister had me. I'm actually surprised she is making a big deal of it. I thought we had it all worked out in the past. I'm really trying to extend an olive branch. I'm going to invite her to get ready with us.

Her one obligation as a bridesmaid is to buy her dress and stand next to you on the wedding day. There is a reason you didn't ask her to be your MOH, who has lots more responsibility, but asking her to stand next to you is not a big commitment. She will be at the wedding anyways so I don't see why she can't just buy a dress and stand up there

If you say she is a flake, then it won't be that disappointing if she falls through as a BM... but the point is you should still give her the CHANCE to flake. and who knows, she could surprise you.

If you really don't want to make her a BM, I would just leave her as a guest and not give her a made-up title - those crappy jobs won't be an honor. Putting corsages on people isn't an honor. These types of titles are just second-choice pity titles. The only other thing that would be appropriate in my opinion is having her do a reading at the ceremony, in which case she is a reader. Bridesmaid, reader or guest are the best options.

I have five sisters and only two are in the wedding. It's a bit different since you have only one sister not in your wedding, but I know at least one sister is upset about not being in mine. I also have three brothers and a whole bunch of other important relatives. I'm putting boutonnieres on them all and having them walk down the aisle in the processional. The spaces next to you are for the people you want standing there.

Titles are shit unless you're MOH or bridesmaid. If she's married make her a matron of honor or just a bridesmaid. Give her a chance to fail before you knock her down.

Make her a bridesmaid, she's still your sister.

Thanks Angela, that's a good idea.

If it's any consolation, I'm not even inviting my sister to my wedding. Could you make her an usher? What if you just ask her to do a short reading as part of your ceremony?

We are having our nephews and My FH's son be the ushers. I was going to have her do the reading but I was afraid she might show up drunk and not be able to do it, so I picked my goddaughter

Similarly, I wanted my brothers involved in the wedding some how, but I didn't want to take over half of my fiance's groomsmen slots. We ended up making them ushers for the ceremony. We're hoping to work in a reading for at least one, but sometimes its hard to spread everything around enough not nobody feels like their are being slighted. Best of luck, sounds like a difficult situation.

I would NEVER include one sibling and not the other. That is just RUDE! Putting her at the door to greet people is no where near having her stand by your side on the biggest day of your life.

The only non bridesmaid options I can recommend are to ask her to do a reading during the ceremony, or to ask her to escort someone/be escorted down the aisle. We didn't want to ask my brother to be a groomsman or a bridesman, so we're asking him to escort my grandmother down the aisle. We'll give him a boutonniere and if we have programs, he'll be listed.

Handing out programs, greeting people, and showing people to their seats are jobs, not honors. If she volunteered to do these things, great, but otherwise, no.

But as other people have pointed out, just ask her to be a bridesmaid. The worst thing that will happen is that she flakes and ends up not being a bridesmaid because SHE messed up. It'll have zero impact on your wedding day. She's not responsible for anything besides wearing the right dress and standing up there with you; you're not going to be asking her to help with anything, plan anything, etc.