Honorary bridesmaid

What is an honorary bridesmaid?

You either are or are not a bridesmaid.

Have them do readings or something else but not honorary or personal attendant.

Besides it's waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy too early to be asking anyone. Wait til after the New Year 2018.

You asked way too early, you can't drop anyone unless you're okay with potentially ending a friendship. What the heck is an honorary bridesmaid?

Agree with PP, honorary bridesmaids are not a thing. you are either a bridesmaid or you are not. if you want to keep your BP small, you can honor these people in other ways--have them do a reading or pass out programs. When I was 16 my cousin had me pass out programs--i got to wear what i wanted, but she got me a corsage and listed me in the program. i wasn't really part of the BP, but i felt special and included

What PP's said. Give them another job....maybe they can be readers.

No to honorary bridesmaids. That sends a message that they were not good enough to make the cut.

Ask them to do other things....they could be at the guestbook, be in charge of the gift table, etc.

Another vote for "honorary bridesmaid is not a thing."

It's tacky. It's not like getting an honorary PhD from Harvard. It means nothing.

Either put them into the bridal party (which, IMHO, makes if far too big) or honor them by letting them be a guest.

Did you already ask them to be bridesmaids? If you did, you are stuck with 7. If you didn't, I wouldn't worry about including them. I've never heard of an honorary bridesmaid. What would they do? You don't have to include everyone.

No honorary bridesmaids. That is hurtful. They will feel like second class citizens, as though they aren't good enough to be "real" bridesmaids. They are either bridesmaids or not.

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Too early to ask and being an "honorary bridesmaid" doesn't feel honorary. They either are bridesmaids or they are not.

Oh Nonna, you always speak what's in my heart. Lmao

Another no for "honorary bridesmaid." Take a deep breath - you have plenty of time to figure this out! FH still has no clue who he wants to ask. He is worried about matching numbers for my potential BMs but I keep telling him it's not a big deal haha

Being an honorary bridesmaid is not an honor. It's a slap in the face. Also another vote for way too early to even be thinking about this let alone doing anything about it.

Does anyone have a real answer as to what an "honorary bridesmaid" is? Is it like an understudy?

Why not just have your MOH and step daughter be the only 2 in your wedding party? You don't have to include everyone. Have someone do a reading and the younger ones be flower girls and then you're done with it. Have you already asked them? You said drop them.

LOL just read this...

"We know that choosing a wedding party can be ridiculously hard, but if you ask a friend to be an honorary bridesmaid instead of a bridesmaid, you risk making her feel like the black sheep of the bridal party."