Honeymoon fund/bridal shower

We used Honeyfund and it was easy, convenient & the fee they take is minimal. Highly recommended.

I can relate to the situation you are in, my fiance and I purchased a house as well so I felt awkward creating a registry so I was going to do the same thing you did and just suggest a honeymoon fund. But after I talked to friends and family and did some research of my own I found that they all still suggested making a registry. the registry doesn't have to be a lot of stuff but stuff that you would really really love to have. Remember people want to celebrate you and your fiance and some people prefer to give a physical gift rather than money. I personally created a small registry and honeymoon fund using zola so that guests can have the choice to pick, if they choose to give a gift at all. I hope this helps! ... sorry for the long response...

View Quoted Comment It's okay this really helps thank you!

My MIL set our honey moon fund registry up on honeyfund.com

View Quoted Comment I'm actually considering a spa day filled with massages, facials, mani/pedis and wine. Most of all relaxation and laughter.

Agree that showers don't make much sense if you aren't receiving physical gifts. We are also not having a registry, as we live together and have a house and don't need anything. We are just declining any mention of gifts on our website or elsewhere. I know that people who want to give us something will likely just give us a check or cash at the wedding, which we can put towards a honeymoon, wedding bills, or any other expenses or things we want or need. There might be some guests who don't give us anything and that is fine as well.

To us it didn't make sense to collect funds towards a yet-to-be-chosen-upon honeymoon and to have some third party company taking a cut of whatever we are gifted. Our honeymoon will likely rely heavily on cash gifts if we decide to do it shortly after the wedding, because we are using all of our funds to throw a really nice event for us and our guests, so for us it made more sense to see if we'd end up with $1000 or $8,000 in gifts before deciding whether we wanted to do a shorter, low key domestic trip vs some big luxurious international adventure. I feel like honeymoon funds and honeymoon gifts work best if you already have a trip in mind, because then you can make it seem like guests are actually gifting you things, like a couples massage or romantic candlelit dinner for two, which may encourage them to gift you differently than if they are just giving you cash. If you don't have a plan yet its very unnecessary to use a website to collect funds towards a random vacation, IMO.

We are having a co-ed shower (not-really at all a shower-which will bug some people on these threads) so let's say in lieu of , it's non-traditional, but we calling it a "Brunch and Brew Shower" but really I don't care so much as getting caught up on words. None of our friends have got offended, actually they think its brilliant. Since our wedding is destination, it is a time that our local friends can celebrate with us who might not be able to come. My parents are hosting the Brunch and Brew Shower at a brewery (yes people you CAN shower with LOVE, sheesh, does not have to be material) and my mom is all for this. Honestly I care more about her opinion then any snappy people telling you what you are doing is "tacky". My fiance and I have lived together for a long time, and we really don't want physical gifts because A). we don't need things and lived together for a long time B.) we will be moving across state in a few years and don't need more stuff to move. So we are doing a honeymoon fund for a specific cruise and we are going to have a donation table set up all cute and fancy. We are paying for everyone to get a free drink and having free food for everyone and desserts with a gift to the guests. Life is about adventure and experiences, it doesn't have to be about material items. If you value life experiences, don't let anybody bully you out of what you want to do. I am in the same boat about thinking of what to plan as far as a schedule, since yes there will not be gift opening, although I know some people probably will still bring a gift that didn't read the invite. We used the Knot registry for the honeymoon fund and I love it. We are going to send pictures of the fun things that our guests have helped us fund after our cruise in our thank you cards. I just had a co-worker tell me she thinks it's actually nice I am not asking for material things, she gets it, I didn't bring it up to her she brought that up to me! Let's stay in touch! My Shower is in May. When is yours?