Honeymoon fund/bridal shower

We actually are using the fund provided in the knot. That were we have our website also. Good luck

So I had this happen. Because I only had a honeymoon fund, I had to have a separate side registry for items for my shower. I registered with Zola for my fund since it allows you to also break it down into activities. But I gotta say, most people gave me cash up front rather than have to the registry

Bridal showers are for physical gifts. If you don't want to receive any, you should decline the offer for a shower.

I'd say to skip the registry altogether if you'd like cash. Honeymoon funds take a percentage of the money your guests give you, so not all their money is going toward your gifted experience. People will likely give you cash if you don't register or if you have a small registry. Additionally, bridal showers are for tangible gifts, so if you're not keen on getting any of those, you'd politely decline anyone offering to host a shower for you.

If you are not having a regular registry, you don't have a shower since they are for physical gifts. Once your guests know there is no registry, they will likely bring cash to the wedding. Using the honeymoon fund/money fund sites charge fees.

Plus asking people, outright, to fund an optional vacation is tacky. Sorry to be blunt but it is. Don't accept a shower as showers are to shower you with gifts.

View Quoted Comment Well that's your opinion. I just bought a house and had a house warming therefore honeymoon fund it is since making a registry is not an option I have everything I need. If i made a registry i would just be putting random stuff that i dont need nor have room for.

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It is the opinion of a lot of people as well. Best wishes, and I sincerely mean that.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I'll keep that in mind

I also would decline a shower if you do not want any physical gifts, as it is the purpose of the shower. I personally would find it tacky to be asked to attend a shower and bring cash for the couple.

View Quoted Comment Never intended to ask for money even if I had a shower.

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A honeymoon fund is asking for money.

View Quoted Comment Thanks 👍 lol

I am decling a shower I don't see the point in them, put this is my oppion. We have everything we need, for we have lived together for awhile, plus both had things before we got together. We have set up a honeymoon fund, telling guest we already have all the homely gifts we are asking if they could send us on some fun.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much!

Hi Jessica,
I have been asking myself the same question. I have been considering using Zola, since we really have just about everything we would need for our home and due to work commitments won't be taking a honeymoon until next year.

View Quoted Comment Couldn't the bridal shower just be about an evening of relaxation and fun while bonding with other females prior to the wedding? Why do tangible gifts really need to be part of it? I am struggling with this same topic. Not sure about the etiquette, since I don't need the usual and customary gifts.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking maybe a brunch or something

View Quoted Comment Because that’s literally what a shower is. A party to “shower” the bride or couple with gifts.

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