Honeymoon Fund :/

@Julie, most adults work 40 hours a week if not more and don't get days off except for twice a year. 4 days off in a 2 in a half month time frame really isn't that bad. just saying.

Oh @IdahoBride I thought you were talking about the HoneyFund.com registry people do!

I don't think it's so bad to have a dollar dance, personally... but I don't think you have to call it a honeymoon dance! Then again, the general opinion on here is against the dollar dance as well. Personally I've DJ-ed 22 weddings, and at least 80% of them had dollar dances! And of the ones I've attended, they've had dollar dances too! I think it's fun and I always give a dollar and dance with whoever I'm there to support. But at our own wedding we're not doing a dollar dance (we're not doing a dance at all). I wouldn't feel bad doing that if I were you!

Welcome to being an adult and parent, most adults work hard and a lot don't get to go on vacations. I agree with Olivia, how entitled. If he works so much save some money and pay yourself.

If we stated our displeasure with honeyfunds in poem form would that make it seem less rude?

I am sorry when did working and having kids automatically entitle you to a all expenses paid vacation?

EVERYONE WORKS HARD, you are not entitled to a vacation. Save and pay for your own.

@Julie I wasn't trying to sound harsh. I believe he works hard just like most adults. But you don't see most adults asking others for money for their vacations. Save the money you earn and pay for it yourselves.

I thought those things on Pinterest were used in your own home, for you and your partner to save. sort of like the wine cork collecting ones, concert ticket collecting ones and ones where you save for a vacation(such as Disney World).

i didnt think people used them at weddings and parties?

Easiest way for me to not give you money as a gift? Ask for it. Ask for money and you get a garden gnome.

On another note, every time I hear some one call some one rude I cannot help to think of this scene...

I personally wouldn't ask for a honeymoon fund.

It seems that so many people on here are really against Honeymoon Funds. I did consider it at one time but I felt that we didn't need it. I guess these funds exist because couples do not want to awkwardly beg for money. The fund makes it a little easier. In my case we are way over budget because so many people were offended that they did not get invitations. It broke my heart to tell them no. Now we are happy with the guest list but over extended. I wish that most of my guests were responsible adults who are good at gift giving but they are terrible. Some show up empty handed. I guess that in some circles registries and funds are needed to guide the cheaper or rude guests.

People are ridiculous. When people buy stuff chances are they are paying this little thing called sales tax which is a percentage just like when they give cash on a honeymoon fund website. If you don’t find the need to have a bunch of china and crystal you’ll never actually use then do a honeymoon fund. If your guest love you they will be more than happy to help you have the most amazing time as possible. Don’t listen to the jerks calling it tacky.

View Quoted Comment That’s not how it works. It’s a tiny service fee equaling to be around $2 most sites let the couple choose whether it charges the guest $2 more or the couple gets $2 taken out. Your math is a touch off

We are having a small destination wedding and have given our guests the options to gift us an "experience" for our honeymoon so that they don't feel like we are asking them to give us money to HAVE one but rather to enjoy something fun on them. It might be tacky to some, but we would prefer experiences over gifts, and most of our guests know and understand that about us.

View Quoted Comment I find it inappropriate to ask for or suggest any gift of money, unless someone calls or approaches you and says, what would you like most? Honeymoon funds are the worst, as most make it sound like you are getting particular experiences, when in fact they take a 7-8% cut for their profit, then give you a lump sum of money .. And often it is not available for weeks, after most people go on a honeymoon. And people do not necessarily do any activity that was paid for, that part is a sham. People who are adults can figure out what gift they want to give. If it is money, they can figure out how to give it to you, without paying a commission. I do not buy someone 10 place settings of dishes, so the store can keep the price of one, then send you nine. Why recommend a service honeymoon fund that does that? And no matter how cutesy the poem, indicating you want a gift of money, when you have not been asked by the person, is considered crass behavior in any circumstance, including a wedding.