Honeymoon Fund :/

The search option hasn't been working for me so SORRY, I'm not asking for myself. I would never do this. Just curious on what others think.

I honestly think it's extremely tacky, as most people on this site do as well. Now with that being said, I did put this on our wedding website-

With all that we have, we've been truly blessed.

Your presence and prayers are all that we request.

But if you desire to give nonetheless,

a monetary gift is one we suggest.

Here are my thoughts:

Even if you don't consider it rude, it's a waste of money. They take a percentage of the gift, so why wouldn't I just give a $100 check in a card instead of spending $100 on something and then only getting $90 (or whatever) towards it.

I think that is more for someone in their home? TO save?

You are right, it's definitely rude!

LeeAnn, no. Just no. "Cute" poems don't make it okay.

You're absolutely right! It is pretty rude.

At this point I feel like someone should just write a post on Honeymoon funds of any kind, it's something that gets asked multiple times a day. Sometimes it's asked so frequently that I start questioning if it's a joke. I'd even suggest a WW sticky but not everyone reads those!

My future sister in law is doing a HoneyFund for their wedding registry and she even paid to have it upgraded so the pictures are pretty on the site and everything. I'm so glad that I found the general opinion of NOT to do a HoneyFund on WeddingWire... because initially when we were engaged we thought it would be the best answer! But nope! I just feel awkward for my FSIL, hopefully most of those attending don't think it's tacky! Luckily I also convinced her not to put "These invitations are for ADULTS ONLY" on her invitations! Haha

Omg LeeAnn, no. What you did is just as tacky as a honeyfund. It's still asking for money. People know how to give gifts.

Yep, you're right! It's rude. I'm glad that you would not do this, OP.

And no cutesy poems, either. Adults do not need to be instructed to give cash as a wedding gift. Everyone knows money is a great and useful gift; being told to give a monetary gift is likely to rub a lot of people the wrong way. I'd side-eye the fuck out of that.

Heather, I honestly think thats what the picture is of. IF not i would shove a handful of monopoly money in it and call it a day.

Lol @Carrie I am the same exact way!!! Definitely getting my fsil a piece of art for their wall or something!

I got kicked out of the fb group Wedding Connections because of a post like this. No, I didn't post it .. that's gross. Some girl posted that she was torn between doing this or doing a 1 hour open bar and then after that hour she wanted to charge her guests $2 per drink to go towards her honeymoon. Normally, I don't really bother with the non-sense of the internets, but for some reason that made me so mad and I set aside being a real adult for a moment and verbally abused her!!

Point of my story is .. NO .. don't do this!! It's horrible.

ETA: I should have stated that she wanted to have this AT HER WEDDING .. ON THE BAR!

Lol @ LeeAnn Honeyfunds are rude but outright asking for money is acceptable.

@Reyna I agree. It is possible to state your opinion in a kind way! We should be helping each other, not tearing each other down.

Yeah and couples should be paying for their own vacations, not asking others too.

I don't think the item you are showing is meant to be at a wedding. I'm pretty sure it's for home use for you and FH to put money in to save for your HM. I have something similar at my house.

@Kelly It is the front picture on a pinterest post with similar jars posted at weddings, and wedding decor ideas. One even says thank you! at the bottom. If it was at home I understand, that is a great idea. But these are definitely used in weddings.

@annakay511 yeah I am, just got engaged a little over a week ago. Is that a problem?

LOL OMG thats a first.

Annaykay was referring to Reyna's terrible advice OP, relax.