"Honeymoon Fund"

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My fiance and I have been conflicted on this issue. We want a honeymoon fund to help pay for our dream Japan trip. I know its custom to usually receive house items but anything electrical would be useless since me and my fiance are from different countries and the plugs and voltage are different. Plus we don't want anything physically big since packing it for the airplane trip would be costly. I really don't understand the wedding "rules" since I haven't really to been to any weddings. I just wish it was more acceptable to be honest instead of beating around the bush about what the bride and groom really wants as a gift.

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If someone asks you what you want you can be honest, or rather forthcoming - just tell them that you really don't need anything for your house but you are saving up for your dream trip to Japan. That's perfectly acceptable. What you can't do is request money, either through a honey fund or a note on your website or in your invitation. There shouldn't be any mention of gifts in a wedding invitation, physical or monetary, by the way. The easiest and most etiquette-approved way to spread the word without literally spreading the word in a rude and inappropriate way is to not register or register for very few items, and/or you can spread the information via word-of-mouth amongst your close friends and family

You never, ever put anything about any kind of gift, on an invitation, or send any link to any gift thing enclosed with it.
Not on the invitation, but with it on a separate details card, or little business card, or anything not the invitation, you may put a link to a website of yours . Otherwise, whether a registry or other gift suggestion, only if people ask you, do you make a suggestion. If people ask you, or your family, or bridesmaids for suggestions, then you may say what you want, including that you would like money for a specific thing . This is the only way for a money request: if they approach you. All other, super rude . . . . You would never walk up to a friend, family, or boss and say, we are having a party on _date_ to celebrate ___ and we come you will come. The present we want you to give us is money for a trip . Cash or check is fine, or you can send it to our credit union vacation account. . . . At least I hope you wouldn't. That is how it comes off if you make a request with an invitation . So you do not do it. . . . A gift is always the choice of the giver. Wait for requests for suggestions to either talk about any registry, or a wish list item like money for a house, appliances, vacation . Or any general item you would not put on a registry , like an antique silver service, or general stuff that may be purchased used

View Quoted Comment Wedding etiquette is the same as all special occasions, like birthdays, Christmas or other holidays, baby showers, graduations, anniversaries, or retirements : It is never polite to assume someone wants to give you a gift, and tell them what you want it to be . You only mention gifts if asked, what do you want ?

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I never mentioned there's an entry fee to my wedding via wedding gifts. But thanks for your "advice".

We did and online registry that included honeymoon experiences and expenses as well as traditional gifts. We put a note on the registry page of our wedding website as well as on the registry itself saying this: "As we begin our lives together, we are especially grateful for support from our loved ones. We recognize how lucky we are to be blessed with the necessities of every day life, and have decided to instead plan an unforgettable honeymoon to (honeymoon location) to celebrate the beginning of our married life together. Although we have included some traditional gifts for household upgrades, we decided to make the experiences and expenses for our honeymoon the focal point of our registry where guests can make contributions if so inclined. The biggest gift of all, however, is your presence on our Big Day. Thank you for your love, and we can't wait to share our honeymoon adventures with you." I think this caters to both types of guests - the last minute gift givers as well as the more old fashioned guests who feel giving cash is impersonal. You could also include pictures with your thank you cards showing you doing whatever activity or excursion that particular guest helped pay for. It's not like we wont take plenty of honeymoon pics anyway! That would make it more personal and ensure your guests dont feel like they are just throwing cash at you.