Honeyfund posted on Facebook?

Totally gross.
But so is posting someone else's fb post just to make fun of them...

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I wasn't making fun of them, I was just asking what other people thought of it?

I totally agree with you. A girl on my FB recently posted a picture of her and her FH with the caption "We're officially registered! DM me if you want the link!" and I was in shock that someone would do that.

View Quoted Comment Okay sure... you've been on WW for a while, you know what people would think.

Yes, it should leave a bad taste in your mouth.

I feel like if you already know how this forum typically views honeyfunds, you’re doing this to elicit reactions that are negative toward this bride that isn’t here to defend herself. I’m not saying what she did is ok, but I think you could deduce that on your own and move on.

View Quoted Comment Bingo.

(Ugh character minimum)

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I feel like every time I try to get advice or just talk to people on this forum I get backlash.

All I wanted was to have a conversation about it.

Why do you think I covered her name and everything? I'm not trying to start anything, just getting opinions and starting a conversation.

Honestly, I don't see that this is any different from sharing your registries on Facebook! And I know some people think that is wrong as well, but for some people it is the only way they can get the information to everyone. Also, sometimes, the older population won;t be able to find it on their own, but can find it if you give them a link. AND some people specifically do money trees and such for their shower because they don't need other things, but need help taking a vacation!

But this also should not have been posted on here. It is her wedding, her family and friends, she knows what is acceptable in her and their minds! Either way, it is not yours or anyone else's place to judge her decisions as a bride!

I feel like there is at least one thread per day that thoroughly shows the overall feelings/opinions of this forum’s users on honey funds. If your soliciting opinions/advice for yourself, great, but posting a screenshot of another bride’s post is just distasteful. I feel like this was posted to stir the pot and knowingly create negativity around another bride’s choice.

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Don't worry about them, that's just their opinion...this forum has a plethora of opinions. Sorry you have been made to feel it's hard to share on here! For the most part people are really nice and supportive and give some great ideas and a different way of thinking.

As an add on...I have no issue with honeymoon funds or house funds or anything of that nature, I would rather my money go somewhere wanted, instead of getting some handmixer that will sit in a box for ages. However, wow on the sharing it to FB, I haven't seen anyone do that.

I don't really have any opinions on other's posting about honeyfunds. If they want to, then cool, that's their deal. I can't judge because at least they're asking for something that'll serve a purpose and won't take up space in the home never being touched.

Would I go posting it on here where sometimes people like to jump in and get very opinionated? No, lol.

That is the tackiest thing you can do. I'm sure not every single person on her page is even invited! It's one thing to have one and another to blast it all over the place. If people ask you for your registry and you have a honeymoon fund then that's when you share it. Not shoving it in people's faces.

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That is the thing, you do not know that she was trying to shove it in everyone's face. And just because not everyone on her friends list is invited to her wedding or shower, does not mean that she cant share her registries with everyone. My first shower, there were more presents from people who weren't invited than ones that were. I have a huge church family, lots of family friends, and we both have huge families. It isn't practical to invite everyone, but that does't mean that there aren't people who would love to send you a gift.

Also, her and her fiance might have lived together for a while and have the things they need, so what is the point in asking everyone to buy you things that will either get returned or sit in a box somewhere unopened?

Personally, I think it is worse of those on here badmouthing someone they don't know over a personal decision she made that literally affects none of you, than I do the girl who was trying to get registry information out to her friends and family!

I find it ironic that every time someone posts on here about doing a honeyfund themselves, they are chastised relentlessly for it. But now when you post about SOMEONE ELSES honeyfund suddenly everyone is jumping to this person’s aid...

Personally I have nothing against honeyfunds, we plan to do one. I really don’t see the difference between registering for a gift and registering for an experience. I have agreed to disagree with people here many times on that lol.

BUT you are right that is super tacky and rude to post it on Facebook! Posting anything about your registry on Facebook is super rude! Everyone on here seems to have a problem with honeyfunds because they are “asking for money” but if people go to your registry page they clearly intend to give you a gift so I don’t think that’s wrong. But posting on your Facebook is blatantly asking for money from people who aren’t even invited! Jeez

This is awful. My family would be so ashamed.

I cannot stand when people do this... When you post your registry on Facebook you are telling everyone, "Hey, even if you're not invited please feel free to send us gifts and money." I've seen people do this and honestly it drives me crazy lol.

Also, people share stuff like this all the time on here, so I am confused why everyone is getting so wound up about it now when they didn't all the other times...

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I think everyone is grumpy, because it's Monday

View Quoted Comment I've noticed that the ones that usually comment the negative stuff is usually the same few... I keep scrolling if its something I dont agree with, but everyone is different! Dont take it personal, there will always be a few! I had posted something before and made the mistake of typing "MY" (anything) and got jumped on because it should have been "OUR" 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Anyway, you covered the personal info, and yes I do agree it is a little distasteful to fish for gifts from people who aren't invited to the wedding!