Honeyfund .....any other honeyfund type sites

Don't have a honeyfund. They are just rip offs. Have a very small registry. Your guests will get the hint and give you money/checks. Bonus, you get the entire amount - no fees. Plus, you get the funds immediately and can spend the money any way you want.

Be careful. Most people on here think honeyfunds are tacky. Your post won’t be accepted well. I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with them. No suggestions for other accounts.

Yeah. I was trying to think of a none tacky way to do this lol we would rather money to go toward the honeymoon haha

Most charge a fee, some have the fee come out "your" share, like if they give you $100, you get $99. Some have the guest pay the fee, like they give you $100 but give the site $101 to cover the fee. You need to decide which way you prefer. I am using Zola and absorbing the fee on my end. The guests are being more than generous giving a gift to begin with so I don't want to make them pay a fee too!

If you want to do a honeymoon fund, DON'T LET ANYONE DISCOURAGE YOU! I have told a ton of my friends and family this is my plan, and in these people are some fairly affluent and well to do people, and NOBODY has thought it is tacky. They all think it's a cool, modern alternative. If people think a honey fund is tacky, they better think registering for ANYTHING is tacky... sorry, rant over!

Cut out the middle man and either have a very small registry or skip it all together.

Your guests will get the idea and you will get the full amount without stressing about the fee.

View Quoted Comment Your guests are still paying a fee they just don’t see it. Also why bother with that when you won’t get the full amount? It’s much easier to skip the arbitrary website and forgo registering. That way anyone who feels inclined to give a gift can just write you a check and NEITHER of you have to worry about a fee

View Quoted Comment Also just to point out a registry is just a guide for things you would like so you don’t end up with 6 toasters or plates you hate. It’s helpful for guests.

If a gift guide is tacky you must not tell people what you want for Christmas either.

View Quoted Comment Malari.....yes!!! I totally agree!!

I don't understand the appeal of having a middle man that takes a portion of the money. Why not just not setting up a registry and getting the full amount?

View Quoted Comment My mom said the exact same thing about having a registry and ending up with six toasters.😂

Honeyfunds aka asking for money is tacky. If you dont register or do a very small one, people will get the point.

Don't have a honeymoon if you can't afford one.

View Quoted Comment Flagged. That was completely uncalled for. My father has passed too, but I would never assume he was responsible for paying for my honeymoon. Most people pay for their own honeymoons these days.

View Quoted Comment Not sure where you ever saw me say he was paying for my honeymoon. I simply said I am paying out of my own pocket for majority of my wedding so I don't see why cuoghi attacked me for inquiring about a honeyfund assuming I can't afford my own. That person's comments was rude as well seeing as she knows nothing about me or my life. No where did i ever say I'd expect my dad to pay for my honeymoon but I'm sure he would help with wedding costs if he was her. But he isn't so my point was we don't all get the luxury of family around to help us is all.

You weren't attacked. It's sound advice. It's not up to your guests to pay for your honeymoon. You mentioned your father as though his passing is preventing you from saving up and paying for your own wedding and honeymoon.
In fact, families helping pay for weddings is a dream long gone. PP's are right though, just don't register or make a small registry if you must. I am sure if you were given a list of gift demands with cash highlighted and underlined from some distant relative or friend, you'd be hesitant to comply with their demands.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.

I'll admit that I don't know how it works because I haven't looked into it myself, but I have heard people say that you can set up a similar type of thing with a travel agent so that the funds do go directly to your honeymoon if that's what you wish.

You weren’t attacked. She gave you advice. She told you not to register, people will get the idea and give you cash. She said don’t take a honeymoon if you can’t afford one. That’s great advice. If you are struggling financially and cannot afford the luxury of a vacation, don’t spend all your money on one. If you literally cannot afford one, save the money, use it for your life, pad your savings account so you have emergency money and go later. What happens if you book everything and plan everything and surprise, you don’t get enough cash at the wedding to cover all the costs?

I’m very sorry that your father passed away but plenty of users here pay for their entire wedding AND honeymoon. Also, your now blocked comment just makes no sense because there are other parents and family members besides your father. So I think you said that specifically to try to make Cuoghi feel bad (and so other posters would feel sympathy) or you would have added why no one else is helping. The whole brides family paying for the wedding is quite antiquated. H and I built solid savings accounts from the moment we started working so we could afford things like a wedding and a house and vacations in the future. You paying for your own wedding is not unique in any way.

People put cash and checks in the card. Been doing it for years and years without the need for a HoneyFund and you can use the money for whatever you want.

Personally I’d rather get 100$ cash in a card than 99$ that I have to pay another 5$ to even get to touch. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wont even tough the social etiquette of asking for money to pay for the vacation you want.