Honestly, is anyone paying for their entire wedding themselves?

Most of the people I’ve encountered on this site are paying/have paid for their own wedding. Out of mine and H’s social group, more than half have been completely paid for by the bride and groom. We paid for our entire wedding on our own.

Girl, you are not alone!!! My FH and I still have our parents, but we have paid for EVERYTHING ourselves!! And I mean EVERYTHING!! We have a guest list of 80... and this hasn't been cheap! We have cut costs where we can, but also do not want to look back and wish we would have done something differently.

We are paying for everything ourselves.

We are!🙋💏👰 we're also saving for a house and paying for majority of the houshold bills cuz his family sux at money n they think that it should be per person paying instead of per room even though we're not allowed in the bottom half of the house without being smogged out by smoke. Sorry much needed rant. But we save all the hundreds from each of his checks n pay 300 every other week so we're still averaging 100-300 in savings

I am paying for our wedding completely on my own. It will all come out in the wash once FH and I are married and officially combine finances, but as it stands, it's currently all out of my pocket because I have a bit more financial flexibility than he does. I'm glad that I'm doing this at 30 instead of my early 20s because I am more easily able to afford the wedding that I want to have. I feel a lot of freedom in paying for these things on my own because it is about what me and my FH want. While I am including our mothers in the planning, it is ultimately our decision on what we want, and I have no guilt for putting my foot down on others requests.

We are paying for our entire wedding ourselves as well. You are not alone.

We are paying for everything 100% on our own.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for responding. I’ve never felt so poor as I do wedding planning. Our costs are coming out to $350 a person and we are super budget on EVERYTHING. I’m getting all the decor from buy nothing groups and thrift shops. I got my dress second hand. We aren’t having an engagement party or bridal shower and we aren’t asking for gifts. We are considering cooking because at least we would have control over the menu and for 30 people it’s not that big of a deal. There’s a kitchen on site.

We are paying for everything ourselves. We knew before we even got engaged that we would be, and we're fine with it. To us, this means that while people have their opinions on how they think things should be done, at the end of the day we get to do what WE want because we're the ones footing the bill. I know my dad would love to help but I also know he isn't able to financially, so I never even mention money to him. I know that when the time comes to DIY some projects or set things up he'll be the first one there to help, and that's more than enough for me.

View Quoted Comment Seriously, I understand. My entire budget was $5000 now it’s moving closer to $6000 and I’ve been doing my best to keep it there. I was lucky enough to find an all inclusive golf course venue. While a golf course isn’t my dream venue, it fit the budget so I went for it. I’ve bought a few items second hand as well. My dress I’m going to purchase from Azazie so that will save me as I expected to pay more for a dress. I’m doing a ton of diy stuff from flower bouquets, centerpieces, favors, seating chart, cake stand, etc. We aren’t having an engagement party either but my MOH and her mom are throwing me a bridal shower. We don’t need household goods as we’ve been together for 13 years so it’s a nighty and lingerie bridal shower, which should be fun. I don’t even think we will be doing a rehearsal dinner as I don’t think we can fit it in the budget. Well good luck and I’m sure you will have a beautiful wedding!

We're paying for everything ourselves and I prefer this so that no one else besides me and my fiance get input into the guest list or anything else lol

I paid everything myself EXCEPT the social hour. That I did get a chunk of it from my mother in law and her church friends decided to volunteer some baked goods. Other than that everything was paid for by me.

View Quoted Comment We originally wanted to stay under $5K but we are having it in the horrible state of Florida because that’s where our friends and family are. And Florida sucks because it’s a “destination” wedding location for much of the world which drives costs up to even more unreasonable levels. We are sacrificing so much already. We have to fly ourselves cross country from Seattle to have this event there. It’s insane. I hate it and can’t wait for it to be over. The day after my wedding will be the best day of my life. Until then, I’ll be crying every day and breaking under the immense weight of this shark industry.

Same! Paying for everything ourselves. You're not alone.

Paying for everything ourselves! I’m glad I’m in my 30s and not 20s because I feel financially stable to save what I need each paycheck towards my half of the wedding.

We did everything on our own. We wanted a beautiful wedding but didn't want to waste money on so many extras that seem to be the norm. We had a guest list of less than 50 people, found a non-traditional venue, skipped flowers, and bought our attire online vs boutiques and bridal shops. Everything had a relaxed cocktail party feel to it which is exactly what we wanted and perfectly fit the budget we set. This was the second wedding for both of us so we never even considered any other funding options. My parents didn't pay for any of my first wedding either, but that was probably due to the fact it was less than 12 people in my in-laws back yard and I literally didn't get to pick a thing.

My FH and I are mostly paying for our wedding ourselves. My parents have some money set aside but about 90% of the total cost my FH and I will be paying for. I am grateful for any financial help but from day 1 we always planned on paying for the wedding ourselves.

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry you feel this way. You should have had it where you live and make everyone fly to you. That’s what my best friend did. Don’t get me wrong, I was MOH in her wedding and after doing a bridal shower, bachelorette party and flying and getting a hotel room for myself and future husband out to Nashville. We probably spent $3000 but now she’s my MOH and has to fly my way and do all those things as well so it’s evening out lol. I know my comment is a little late and your already are in the midst of it. Hope it gets easier and more enjoyable for you.

Chiming in as another who paid for her own wedding (together with my husband). And I am very, very happy with the way everything turned out because paying for it on our own meant it was truly *our* wedding.

We wanted a small wedding, could afford a small wedding, and had a small wedding. Winning!

Another bride here to tell you you are not alone! FH and I are paying for everything. Their parents nicely gave us 1000$ and my mom paid for the cake and that’s all the help with have had. Which was highly appreciated.