Hi my name is Lesley and i can't decide on a date

It’s best to decide on a season and year and then look at venues and see their availability.

We knew we wanted to be married by the end of this year, and nov/dec are way too crazy for us. We were looking at 10/27/29 but 8/8/19 ended up being better for our VIP guests (family mostly) so we chose that date!

View Quoted Comment We did exactly this.

Congrats, Lesley! We fell in love with a dream venue and the only way to afford it was to have it during their off-season (Jan-Mar), on a weekday. We chose late March so it could be as warm as possible, with possible flowers in bloom, and still get least expensive rates. Ended up choosing March 20, which was Spring Equinox that year! 🌷

I have always wanted a fall wedding but fiance wants a winter wedding but I don't like the cold. so I told him maybe we can pick a date that's significant to him or to us. and his parents have been married for almost 50 years so i told him to ask them the date so we could use that one. is that a bad idea

Agree with the others.. if you figure out a general timeframe you'd like to get married, you should then look at venues to see what their availability is and that will help you narrow it down.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t get locked into a specific date because what if it’s during the week in the year you want to get married or the venue you fall in love with doesn’t have availability on that date. It’s much harder to plan everything around a specific date rather than month or season.

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I think that's fine, but you should remember that you shouldn't get so fixated on a date that may not work with a certain venue. So they should be done simultaneously if possible.

We honestly had our date picked out before we even got engaged. We're getting married on our 6 year anniversary, which falls perfectly on a saturday in October 2020.

View Quoted Comment I didn't have any problems with a specific date at all. Granted, we had an almost 2 year gap from our engagement to our date, which made it easier. We only had to look at 2 venues (both had our date open) and fell in love with the second.

As PP have said first decide on a season. For FH and I we knew we wanted fall because that is both of our favorite season. However, we didnt want to far into fall because we live in Upstate NY so snow is common anywhere between October-May. That is how we came up with September but only the last 2 weekends of September are technically fall. So that left us with either the 21st or 28th. The 21st is his cousins birthday and we didnt want our anniversary on the same day as his birthday so thats how we picked the 28th of September!

View Quoted Comment It’s not a bad idea but I’d be flexible with your date while you look at venues. Ask about their availability and savings for whatever their “off season” is. Days of week are important too. Saturdays are the most expensive. You might choose a Fri or Sun wedding to save money.

We got engaged with tons of time so we went okay we like fall so perhaps September 26 because that’s our dating anniversary number date. But then we realized that my FH would be in university so we wouldn’t be able to go on honeymoon right after. So we changed it to August and then used our 18 month engagement anniversary. If you plan with a lot of time in advance, you can choose a date and be fine. We did have a few venues that didn’t have our date but that was the first question we asked them so we just moved on and looked at other places

My date is our anniversary and the date he proposed, so for me I picked the date first because it was VERY important to me for it to be that date. This made finding an available venue MUCH harder. So if you don't already have a specific date in mind I would search venues first and base the date on when they are available.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad! I’ve just seen so many posts on here where people are like I only want to get married on this specific date but it’s on a Tuesday next year and the important people in our lives are saying they can’t take multiple days off work to come to our wedding. So that’s why I mostly caution against it.

We wanted to get married on our dating anniversary but it fell in the middle of a week, so we went with a Sunday in the same month. The following Monday is holiday , so hopefully guests can enjoy themselves without worrying about work the next day.

Thank you for the advice, everyone, i am going to discuss it a little more with FH i want it to be a time we both love

We picked a general timeframe / season. After that, I started contacting and visiting reception venues, based on our estimated guest count. If you have a specific vendor in mind for anything, make sure that you reach out to them and factor their availability into your decision. For example, I knew that I really wanted the photographer who did my sister's wedding. We ultimately arrived at our date because our parish, priest, reception venue, and photographer were all available that day. I found selecting a date to be the worst part of wedding planning. Everything else has been much easier!

View Quoted Comment Exactly what I did!

Hi, congratulations on your engagement!

We chose the date we met, but other than that I would start looking at venues you would like maybe since you do not have a set date they can give you a deal on available dates or cheaper seasons/day of the week