Hesitant to send in venue contract and deposit/spend money on the wedding

It definitely feels painful to write that first hefty check. Just be aware it won't be the last one, if you're having more than 10 people or using anywhere other than your back yard. It's just the nature of weddings. You don't have to go crazy or go into debt for it, but you will have to spend a little for a nice wedding. Unless you think you can find a better option or are waffling on other details (are you worried you'll lose your deposit because you're uncertain of the date, place, time, vendor/guest availability, whatever?), just bite the bullet. It's worth it to get your wedding vision off the ground even if it hurts a bit!

Money is hard. But unfortunately you have to be okay with spending money on yourself. I am such a saver of money and I hate the fact that thousands of dollars are being spent on one day. But I know that one day will be the foundation of my marriage, and I don't want to have any regrets about what I wish I would've done. You just need to remind yourself you deserve this!

I literally just had a panic attack and meltdown over this last night!!! I was sending out the save the dates and seeing all the great-aunts and uncles and cousins we barely talk to and the dollar signs just started rolling in my head!!! One person turns into 2, 2 turns into 4 and at $73 a plate plus another centerpiece for another table, plus more dessert costs....it makes me wanna scream!!! It's crazy and overwhelming and my FH had to calm me down and tell me it's all going to be ok lol, so I'm telling you, it is all going to be ok!!! 😊

I am glad I am not alone in this! I just send out the deposit and contract and feel good (so far)! This is just the beginning but it is exciting and will be worth it. Thank you all for your help and advice. These forums are SO helpful to know we aren't alone!

Umm no. I couldn't wait to book our venue. Now I did want to elope, but my FH doesn't so we are aware of the money we have to spend. As costs are beginning to add up, I get a little queasy sometimes thinking of what else we could be spending the money on, but it's what he wants so no turning back. Even with those feelings I couldn't wait to give our venue deposit because I didn't want the date to be taken. I will say if you aren't fully on board with the money you need to spend, I would wait. I've learned this year from a friend who had no clue what she's got herself into cost wise and ended up cancelling the original wedding plans and has since moved the date twice. Hopefully her new plan sticks.

Our budget was $15k and it was so hard to spend that much for ONE day. After coming to terms with having to pay for such a special event, we relaxed and stopped imaging what else we could do with the money. We don't regret spending that much on our wedding. It was worth it!

At first I was in the same boat. Somewhere along the line FH and I said screw it. It is the one day that we are allowed to splurge a little to make our day the best day of our lives and so there went those thoughts.

Of course we still have a budget and are working to stick close to that though.

I constantly have mixed feelings about spending too much money on this wedding. The deposits hit me all at once ($5000 in one week) and I have crazy heightened anxiety for 2 weeks following. I've gotten over it since, but it's still difficult and scary to wrap my head around how expensive everything is but then I have to remind myself why I'm even having a wedding.

Just keep reminding yourself why you're doing this and things will start to feel less bad.

Yeah, if i could go back 14 months knowing then what i know now, we would have eloped. Lol We are very excited for our wedding and we have some of the best vendors in our area so everything will be of quality but still.