Hesitant to send in venue contract and deposit/spend money on the wedding

I think everyone has that worry but in the end we all want to celebrate with our friends and family. If you and the FH have discussed the budget and it works for you sign away! However if you are still very worried talk it over with him again, think of pushing the date back or cutting the guest list to help save on money if it's an issue you can't get over. Do what is right for yall

All the time. Even keeping ours sort of low key, I sometimes look at what we’ve spent and wonder why. We can afford to host properly, but sometimes the thought of spending tens of thousands of dollars feels ridiculous. I’ve always been pretty practical with money, so this occasionally feels counter-intuitive to me. But then I look at Pinterest, and magically those feelings disappear

I think you guys should wait and see if you really want to spend this amount of $. Bc if this 1st Check is hard... there are soooo many more. We had a budget we happy and excited to sign the contract bc it was within the budget.

I had a 3-day long panic attack after we booked our venue. Just do it. (Also DIYs aren’t necessarily cheaper, just be careful)

View Quoted Comment Ain't that the truth- DIYs you think will be a good cheap option, but you spend a lot on mistakes or they don't turn out how you want.

My FH is this way so I'm handling all the payments. Of course he's in agreement and nothing happens without him knowing but I'm thinking it's easier for me to actually send in the money.

I have & would SMH and say how I'm in the wrong business!! Knowing what we are spending overall is VERY overwhelming and can cause a panic attack....but we were able to save & have the money for it so we're fine (as long as we don't dwell on it).

I have two kids in college and back in grad school myself.....so yeah....I hear you! Just take it easy and know you are throwing a wonderful party that you will look back on with great fondness. You are getting married, girl!!

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Thanks for the comment and DIY note. In my head I was thinking I could totally make my own invitations and get really craft, but after researching realize I probably couldn't pull it off as well!

Thankfully my BM's sister runs her own paper company and is beyond crafty and can help out!

Occasionally I look at how much we have spent and wish it wasn't on just one day and we would have invested in our future instead- but I am happy with our plans, and I understand it's a once in a lifetime expense. Anyway, we've spent too much now to turn back 😂

Follow your heart and your dream.

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Wow good for you! I am back in school, grad school myself, and man it can be hard to find time!

Kudos to you!!

Thank you all for the comments and advice! I think I just need to look at the overall picture and take advantage of the day that will be to celebrate our love and future!

View Quoted Comment I was going to do my own invitations but after calculating everything up it made more sense cost wise to go with a local company- it equaled out after you consider the paper cutter, ink, card stock, envelopes, time to design & assemble.

Money anxiety/panic has been VERY real for me. Once I send the payment, I'm over it, but adding it up and hearing the large numbers is scary.
I will say revisit your budget before you sign the contract. Once you commit, there's no turning back. See if they'll let you do a soft hold on the date so you have some time to think it over. Most places we visited allowed us to hold the days for a week or two.

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Thank you! And good for you for biting off grad school as well. Everything costs money - lots of brides show up here with sticker shock. I agree on the DIY's stuff - you need to be really good and it may not be as inexpensive as purchasing the items outright.

Yes. We canceled our reception because I just couldn't justify why we would be spending that much money on people we don't even see often. I'd rather spend time with people individually and have adventures than just a big party. But that's me. You do you.

We used the budget part here on WW. We had a total budget amount, but we divvied up the funds a little bit differently (more on rings, less on flowers, for example). In the end, we went 40% over budget, and there were some little things (under $100) that I wish we hadn't spent money on, but on the whole, it was a GREAT party and event, and I wouldn't have had it any other way!

I think we all have that concern. Our wedding is like $35000 and its crazy to me but it will be my dream wedding and I am the only child so that helps. But you need to do what feels right

I felt like instant dread after signing our venue contract and putting money down. I didn't actually regret it but it made me really nervous because it is a lot of money to commit to for one day. I think it's normal but just stay true to a budget you are comfortable with and it should be fine!