Helpful Husbands?

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Thank you. I would always get the ball rolling on the next task and let him put his input at the end. I knew if I overwhelmed him with all of the details, he would eventually not care anymore.

Girl, you are not alone. My fiancé has done the bare minimum up to this point which was touring the venues with me. Even then he asked if it was necessary that he be there and I told him I’m not marrying myself so yes you need to help pick a place with me. He’s definitely not an “in charge” kind of guy but then complains that I’m too controlling. Basically, I am planning this whole wedding myself and my mom and sister (MOH) are giving lots of input bc I’ve asked them to. Any time I ask FH for an opinion gevthinks everything is “nice.” Drives me nuts lol

So I have pretty much done everything. I've told him what venues we are seeing when and have made him talk to his parents about ideas we've had. He didn't even really put together his guest list, I pretty much did it and he added like 5 random people that I've never met and vetoed.

But his is the norm for us. I am the planner he is the doer after I ask him to do it like 5 times. Honestly when I think about it, I am kind of glad. I was upset recently that I was having to plan our vacation by myself and I was feeling a lot of pressure. My older, more experienced coworker reminded me how lucky I was because that means I get whatever I want.

My FH doesn't help plan but he does like to know what's going on. He's not into details however, he does want to ensure it's something we both agree on and we have had conversations about most of the vendors we selected. I don't think it's bad or unusual that your FH doesn't have interest in planning, just as some Brides have more interest in planning and details than others as well. I gave my FH the task of planning the Honeymoon, since your's did plan the engagement trip, the Honeymoon planning might be right up his interest alley. Why not suggest he contribute to the wedding planning by offering this task?

My hubby was very helpful in planning the wedding - he was a first time groom at age 52 and had some very specific ideas on what he wanted and didn't want. Luckily, we saw eye to eye on pretty much everything! My take was, "Look I have done this before, what do YOU want, LOL!" It was our wedding, not just mine after all!!

I know you did not ask but please tell your fiance a Save the Date is an invitation. To not send an invite is rude.

His idea of planning is paying for it, having me do all the footwork, the complaining about what it costs even though i've bought most of the stuff with gift cards I earned online LOL He's sweet, just has zero idea of what goes into planning a wedding.