Help with Rsvp!!!!!

This sounds too roundabout. I think you'll have to just buy the invites and eat the cost if you like them that much. Wish I had a better solution but with the wood stuff there isn't really an alternative

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This is neither kind nor polite. People travel for weddings all the time.

Good. My friend's friend did it. and it came out perfect. she sent rsvp via Facebook added the wedding information and said “whoever accepts to go to my wedding, send me your address to send the invitation” and people did not “confuse” not even me because I also received it through fb. So, it's not a silly idea as others think.

View Quoted Comment You should have ellaborated something like this above in your original post. It reads that you will get an RSVP which essentially just says whether ypu are going or not. The facebook invite has details which makes more sense. I have never been to a wedding where some one has done that but it is a new day and age where social media is a useful tool for such a thing. If that is what you want to do then you should.

Good. My friend's friend did it. and it came out perfect. she sent rsvp via Facebook added the wedding information and said “whoever accepts to go to my wedding, send me your address to send the invitation” and people did not “confuse” not even me because I also received it through fb. So, it's not a silly idea as others think.

The thought of asking for an RSVP without sending an invitation first because you want to save money and you still want to be a certain amount of extra seems rediculous to me. If you can't afford to or don't want to send everyone a proper invitation, you shouldn't be spending so much in the first place.

Change your invitation, makenyour favors wooden coasters.

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It sounds like you already have your mind made up. Most of the responses have not been favorable to this idea and they have no reason not to give you their honest opinion; whereas, your loved ones will not always speak truthfully to your face if they think an idea is bad or in poor taste. I also am not favorable to this idea because I think it is in poor taste and I spent about $14 per invitation. IMO, each person on my guest list was worth it whether they came to the wedding or not. Also, keep in mind that some people may change their mind and want an invitation so this may be difficult for you to order one or two at a time since most places require a minimum order.

View Quoted Comment Then why did you ask people? Sounds like you just want people to praise you. When you post in these forums you need to accept the negative opinions with the good.

Maybe a nice compromise would be to reach out in person and ask them if they think they'll be able to make the wedding? You could bring it up casually and then if you get a maybe or a definite yes, send invitations to those guests? If you get a decline verbally then you won't waste money sending the invitations?

We spent roughly $9/invite, before postage and the cost/time to wax seal them so $5 really doesn’t seem that extreme to me.

You can send save the dates to everyone, but those aren’t asking for a response, it’s really just to tell people to save the date. If you are sending someone a save the date, you would also need to send them an invitation. That being said, just because you are inviting 200 people doesn’t mean you need 200 invites, just 1 for each of the families that you are inviting.

Maybe you could get the invites you love and just send them to your immediate family and bridal party and get cheaper invitations for everyone else? That way they all get sent out together and they ones you know will 100% come get those invitations and the maybes got the other invitations? I know some people don’t like to mix and match (personally I don’t care) but it’s an idea. I agree if might be a bit confusing to just send an rsvp.

In the US at least, you need to send an invite with an RSVP, not one or the other. I'd get them weighed since they will cost a lot in postage too.

I think people are being strangely rough in their responses to you! You’re asking for advice, not to be called ridiculous or cheap. Don’t let anyone’s negativity get you down with regard to your beautiful day.

Here’s my advice, for what it’s worth: Using a Facebook notice will be really helpful or not depending on the level of formality of your wedding. If you are hosting a formal dress, black tie, or cocktail-style wedding, the best way to indicate the level of formality is through the formality of the invitation. I think the Facebook option would be absolutely lovely if the wedding is a day wedding, an outdoor summer or spring wedding, or a wedding with a color palette that is full of bright vibrant colors and likely to have people dressing in sun dresses or garden party dresses more than formalwear. The more fun-loving and easy going your wedding the more casual the etiquette rules can be!

The wood invitations sound just lovely. I really like the idea of using them as a wedding favor if it turns out you will need to have paper invites. Also remember that if you send an invitation and the recipient can’t make it, they will often send a gift anyway. In that case the wood invite is kind of a sweet memory they can keep even though they can’t make it to your big day!

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Sometimes blunt is the best: Gotta agree. I say this with love: You chose an expensive invite, that is on you. Now send one to all your guests please. Are you 100% sure there is not invite that costs less that you love? I mean, there has to something, right, lol??

Honestly, unless the invite is made of gold, it’s still just an invitation and it’s going into the trash. This seems like a lot of pointless hubbub. It also seems as though you’ve already made up your mind and not willing to take any advice so I’m not sure why you’re asking for opinions.