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Savvy February 2020

Help with Rsvp!!!!!

Melanie, on July 30, 2019 at 5:18 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 36

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My invitations will be made of wood and they are a bit expensive. (5 dollars each) I will invite 200 people, there are about 60 or 65 families so they would be around 300-325 dollars per invitation. Making cheaper invitations is not an option because my fiance and I really fell in love with wooden invitations. Well, I don't know if everyone is going to accept going to the wedding and I don't want to send my invitation to those who are not going! 😅 My friend told me to send a notice first, (it is not the save the date) it is practically to send the RSVP first than the invitation and if they accept, then send them the invitation with the wedding information. What do you think about that? did anyone do that?

sorry for my bad english, its my second language.

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Latest activity by allisonrose, on August 12, 2019 at 12:23 PM

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Caytlyn · on July 30, 2019 at 5:20 PM
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No. You can't ask people to RSVP to a wedding without inviting them. RSVPs go with the invitations. If you want people to spend their time and money on attending your wedding, you can send them an invitation. If you can't afford the ones that you fell in love with, find something else. Unfortunately, you sometimes have to sacrifice things you love to fit your budget.
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Kelly · on July 30, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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This would be very confusing for your guests, you definitely need to send an invitation along with an RSVP to everyone you’re inviting. I say this as someone who spent $12 per invite not including envelope liners, detail cards, and address printing.
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Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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I can afford them. I’m just looking for ideas to save money. If ithere is no option. I will buy them anyway.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 30, 2019 at 5:23 PM
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How could people rsvp without any actual information?
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Savvy February 2020
Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:24 PM
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My friend has a friend who actually did that. That’s why she told me to do it.
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Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:31 PM
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They Know the date and the city where the wedding will be because the Save the Date has that information.
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Judith · on July 30, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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Do not do this. People will be confused, and some will not come due to misunderstandings. . . There is a tradition many people follow, of giving favors at a wedding. If you want to do paper invitations, as actual functioning invitations to attend, with RSVP or please reply cards I side, that list the meal choice,is you will get the information on who is coming and what they want to eat. Then, at the wedding , give one wooden invitation to each family that attends, as a keepsake. More people will understand that the wooden plaque invitation is a memento, something to look at and remember the wedding .
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 30, 2019 at 5:35 PM
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You obviously think this is going to work so go for it I guess. Don’t be surprised if you have a ton of confused guests calling you wanting to know where the actual invite is though. And if you have a lot of OOT guests I’d expect people to just decline because they won’t have the necessary info in order to book/look into travel.
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Wendy · on July 30, 2019 at 5:37 PM
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This is a bad idea. Definitely send invites with the rsvps
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Savvy February 2020
Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:39 PM
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What are you talking about? Nobody will travel! All my family and friends are near me 😂
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Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:41 PM
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Thank you! You are so kind and polite! We need more people like this. Who can make an option politely.
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Savvy February 2020
Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:42 PM
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I mean an opinion politely.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 30, 2019 at 5:42 PM
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I said IF. I obviously don’t know anything about your guests. I was simply giving you an example of why this wouldn’t work.
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Kelly · on July 30, 2019 at 5:48 PM
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I would be a bit confused, but if you wanted to you could send a detail card along w/ the RSVP (I wouldn’t send the RSVP alone thinking that ppl will know from the Save the Date, a lot of ppl loses them, at least in FH family). On the detail card you can include some details of the wedding, and wedding website & the RSVP card and if they RSVP yes you could send them a formal invite/keepsake.
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Savvy February 2020
Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:53 PM
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I like this idea!!!! Thank you! I will definitely think about it!
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Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:54 PM
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Aha! Next.....
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Melanie · on July 30, 2019 at 5:56 PM
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Wow I’m sure they are beautiful!
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Champion November 2016
LB · on July 30, 2019 at 6:03 PM
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This is a dreadful idea. Everyone should get an invite. Hard stop.
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Chandra · on July 30, 2019 at 6:07 PM
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I wouldn't do that. It sounds confusing for guests. It also seems like a little bit of a slap in the face like telling somebody they weren't good enough to spend money on inviting, you know?
Plus, adding in the cost of sending any pre invite thing, does it really make it that much cheaper by the time you factor in those "invites" and postage?
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Sherry · on July 30, 2019 at 6:20 PM
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I am curious how you expect people to say if they are coming to your wedding without the wedding information...
This sounds like an extremely confusing situation.
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