HELP! We are throwing a combo bachelor/ bachelorette party and a gf wants to bring her kid...

There is no place for a 5 year old at a bachelor/bachelorette party. I don't understand how people don't get that. I mean when most people think of bachelor/ette parties it's crazy partying and adult stuff...not saying every party is like that (mine won't be) but still definitely not a thing for kids. If her feelings are hurt by you telling her that kids aren't allowed then she'll just have to deal with that and learn that no one brings a kid to a bachelor/ette party. I can see how some get upset over no kids at a wedding but bachelor/ette parties are to have one fun night with friends celebrating the transition from being single to married. How is a 5 yo supposed to contribute to that? Totally inappropriate. Anyway, tell her to get a babysitter and if she can't then she can't come and that's what you wanted!

I completely agree- a bachelor/ bachelorette party is no place for a 5 year old. You may as well take him to a strip club while you are about it. The mother should know better than to even think any kind of adult party is OK for a 5 year old.

You won't be hurting her feelings if you tell her straight that you don't think that it is an appropriate even tto bring a 5 year old and you would feel more comfortable if she left him with family/ a babysitter.

It's your party and you are not being unreasonable in any way. shape or form so don't stress.

Your friend is fully aware that it is not even an appropriate request.

Say no but...

Don't let her response control your feelings.

I don't understand people.

Just tell her in a nice way that she misunderstood that this is your bach parties and it is an adult only event.

Definitely not an appropriate request. It's a Bach party....

I agree with the other ladies...reiterate that it's an adult only event and stay firm with that.

Just say no and don't feel guilty about it. It's inappropriate for her to even consider it.

Yes - just say no! If she doesn't come because she can't bring her kid, all the better.

I'm with Celia.

"I'm sorry, _____, but there will be no kids at the bowling alley. This is an adults only shindig for FH and me. Let me know if you can get a sitter and still make it. Thanks!"

Thanks Ladies!! I was freaking out when I read that she wanted to bring her son last night. (And just before I went to bed nonetheless. UG) But just sent her a message that read:

Hernamehere- I would love for you to come to our Bachelor/ Ette party, but don't think it's the place for kids. Even if we are at a bowling alley. Is it possible to find a sitter so that you can still join us? Thanks for understanding. Hugs!

Got a nasty response.... Whatever! Her issue, not mine. Time I cleaned out the fb friends list anyways.

Omg noway should any kids be there! what did she say?!

Ohh what was her response?!? You should share ;-)...Also I'm assuming that means she isn't coming which is a good thing haha

Her initial response- There is no way I can get a sitter. I'm limited on my time with him and Fridays are our night to play. I was really just going to support u guys but its OK. We will do something else fun that night. Hope it works out for u guys

And btw the only reason I considered bringing him was because u had said it was kid friendly....I planned to pop in and say hi and drop off ur gift and kinda do my own thing with him. But like I said...its cool....its a long drive anyway

to which I responded with.... cont'd

I'm sorry if your feelings are hurt. It was not my intention. It was the plan to do something a bit more family friendly on another night if the 27th didn't work out or folks were having trouble getting a sitter or whatever, but since it seemed to work for everyone, so we are keeping it adults only. And you did not say that you were planning to just stop by and then do your own thing, or ask if it was going to be kid friendly or not. Just that Buggy wanted to come too and to count you in. So felt I should let you know that there aren't going to be kids that night and hope that you could make other arrangements so that you could still join us.

Again, it was not my intention to hurt your feelings.

And got this in return... cont'd

My feelings aren't hurt....but being preg and with a 6 year I would never plan on being active in the party area. That's just kinda logical to me. But really its OK...I'm glad u were able to get friends together and bug and I will def find something cool to do.Not a big deal tho

-- I'm not responding. Am over her and her need to be a pain. This is the same chick who bitched about the service she got when I passed along a 4 hour unlimited play Groupon at a mini golf place that I couldn't use, instead of saying 'thank you'. She can kiss my arse.

Sorry she ended up sending you a nasty response, but at least it seems you won't have to deal with her at the Bach party...

Just be glad she's not coming. Better this way..

Weirdest. person. ever. Who brings a child to a BACHELORETTE party? Be blunt with her. It sounds like she is not the brightest bulb, honestly. I don't think she will get it unless you spell it out for her.

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Well, looks like it's a win win...you didn't even want HER there let alone the rug rat.