Help please. Venue switch?

Tell me if I'm missing the mark here, but is the underlying question about switching venues to have a more intimate (evening?) wedding in a smaller/outdoor space vs. a larger wedding at the nature center (indoor or during daylight hours?)?

I have a feeling that you'll be getting plenty of comments soon from people who have successfully turned their backyard or neighborhood park into a beautiful diy wedding venue, but it definitely can be a lot to think about and a super personal decision! We chose a well established event venue, that was able to accommodate and predict many of our needs as they had hosted weddings before.

1. Think about your vision: If romantic/starry sky is your dream, there are definitely many ways you can play up that same feeling, whether actually having a totally outdoor affair (likely tented*) or want to get those same subtle feelings with lots of candles throughout the space. Can the nature center accommodate either of these options or are there rules about indoor/outdoor and open flames? The nature center should be able to provide some pictures/layouts/etc. of previous weddings if they have hosted before and if not then you have a blank canvas to really make it your own.

2. Think about your VIP guests: whatever space you choose, make sure there is enough space for your absolute most important people to attend (maybe this is 10 people, maybe its 50)

3. Think about your budget and logistics: It sounds like you have some wiggle room as far as cost per guest to expand the guest list, but definitely do some good research before making any venue changes. Reach out to the local supply company (who will likely be providing items at the nature center such as: linens, china, glassware, serving utensils, etc.) and have them also quote the additional items (chairs, tables - guests/cake table/buffet table/DJ table/gift table, a bar area, dance floor, lighting). Where will the caterers set up and cook? Depending how DIY you are going, you will also need to consider electric/power capabilities and if it can support DJ equipment/speakers/mics, if you will need a permit to serve alcohol/have bartenders, and maybe even portable bathrooms. Consider nearby hotels for the guests to stay in, and if parking is limited, potentially providing transportation to the venue. All of these are items to consider even if you are not going DIY and are staying at a traditional venue!

This sounds like a lot, but it can be done and has been done thousands of time with lots of careful planning Whatever you choose, I hope you have a beautiful wedding day!

As a fellow Midwesterner, I caution against anything outdoors under the open sky, as the weather can change at the drop of a dime, especially in the Spring (I'm an April bride as well!)! I would stick with the venue you have now! It will make your planning much easier since so much is taken care of in house! Good luck!

You're right. It probably is better safe than sorry to have our wedding at the nature center (where there are both outdoor and indoor options). My maid of honor is amazing and pointed out that we could do a low key party rehearsal at the house!

Katie you are not missing the mark! I really appreciate you taking the time to reply with such a thoughtful and genuine response.

1. You're super right. While there are rules about open flames (none) I think the warmth in the room can be amplified by celestial details-- ice lights, warm lights, etc. There's even a fireplace!

2. Our VIPs are already at 30. This is definitely not "backyard minimum"

3. This is my next step. I'm going to inquire but after all is said and done, I have a feeling the $ savings won't quite justify the limitations on our guest list. I'll have to find out!

Thanks again!

That is the perfect solution!!!

Plus you don't need to do anything crazy expensive food wise!