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Just Said Yes September 2023

Help? Newly engaged.

Jazzman, on May 18, 2022 at 10:34 PM Posted in Planning 3 4

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Okay so my Fiancé and I got engaged 5.7.22 and all of his family is across the country. (We are in North Carolina, they’re in California) So with that in mind we wanted to book our venue sooner than later to give them time to budget for a cross country trip.

We got on the ball, found a venue we loved and actually put the deposit down today. I couldn’t be more excited but I’m being met with comments by my father that I’m moving too fast. He seems really upset/annoyed and being met with anything other than excitement from those closest to me has me feeling defeated. He was happy for me when we initially got engaged, (my entire family was present for our proposal)
It’s put a sour taste in my having the ones closest to me (my dad & sister) focusing on my timeframe and not being happy for me.
Tips? I just feel discouraged and now I’m worried I’m annoying everyone.

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Latest activity by Cathy, on May 22, 2022 at 9:32 AM

Just Said Yes September 2023
Jazzman · on May 18, 2022 at 10:35 PM
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Edit: we aren’t getting married until 09.16.23
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Super May 2022
Sloane · on May 19, 2022 at 10:51 AM
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I think what happens is that generationally parents don’t understand how especially in these times you have to start early. I applaud you for doing so. We did something similar and I do not regret it. Trust me you’ll need every little date minute our possible to get this thing going. I would not be discouraged but perhaps just communicate to them how excited you are but also how do you need to get planning early to make sure that the event is wonderful for everyone.
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VIP October 2022
Paige · on May 19, 2022 at 12:58 PM
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We dealt with that when we started making plans too. I think people tend to have their own idea of what your wedding will look like, and when you express something different than their vision they have to adjust. Some people are better at that than others.
Knocking out some of the big things ASAP like picking a date and booking a venue is always a good idea, so you're definitely on the right track. People will throw their opinions at you through the whole thing, so just do your best to tune it out, focus on what you want, and enjoy the process.
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Dedicated September 2022
Cathy · on May 22, 2022 at 9:32 AM
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Perhaps Dad is feeling stressed about the money? He may even have it set aside but can be difficult for sone people to part with it? Have a budget discussion so that you are all on the same page! Congrats to you! My daughter has been engaged for almost 2 years & we have needed the extra time! After booking venue, make sure you select a caterer (if separate from venue) and photographer. Those book early!
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