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Help! My Mother-in-law is trying to invite my fiancé’s ex girlfriend and her family

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Stephanie, on January 1, 2020 at 1:52 PM

My MIL remained friends with my fiancé’s high school ex girlfriend and her family. We do not share the same affection for them. They are not nice to us— not so much as an extended congratulations on our engagement. But she is now insisting they be invited to the wedding. The ex, her sister, their mom and grandma. I don’t know them. My fiancé doesn’t want them there either. We’ve told her 3 times already that we are uncomfortable with it. The last time he talked to her about it, she threw a fit and got hysterical and threatened to not come to the wedding.
She isn’t paying for the venue/catering. She honestly doesn’t see why we are super uncomfortable at the thought of having them at OUR wedding. How do I get her to understand this not going to happen???

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Master August 2019
Rebecca · on January 2, 2020 at 3:05 AM
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Stop telling her anything about the wedding. Make it clear WHY, so if she complains, you can remind her, "you are insisting we invite people we do not want, and will not invite. Your opinions are not relevant to the wedding planning."
And I agree with the chorus of "call her bluff".
If she's going to be this toxic because of the wedding, you won't want her there, anyway.
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VIP June 2019
MIWM · on January 2, 2020 at 8:02 AM
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Tell your mother in law no! It's not her wedding!
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on January 2, 2020 at 10:56 AM
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If my mil chose his ex over me I wouldn’t want her to come anyway...no means no.
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Master January 2021
Andrea · on January 2, 2020 at 6:42 PM
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I totally agree
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Super September 2020
Naikesha · on January 2, 2020 at 7:50 PM
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Sorry a little baffled and perplexed behind this. What in the Hell ? she's disrespectful why would she have a fit over his ex? like does she not understand NO? or EX? people we want here celebrating us. People who we both now and want there. I understand you don't like confrontation and when cornered you didnt stand your ground but you guys need to lay law down or shes gonna invite them anyway
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Judith · on January 7, 2020 at 5:30 PM
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If neither of you want to invite them, they are out. The fact that she is herself a guest means that she may suggest people she would like invited. Once. But it is your decision. Not her place to argue the case. No. Maybe she is coming round. But if it comes up again, make it clear, the answer is no.
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KAREN · on January 9, 2020 at 1:02 PM
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This is for your fiancee to handle, not you. It's his mother, and if he wants her there, he needs to explain (politely, but firmly) that they will not be invited as he has not had any sort of relationship with them in years.
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