Help! My mother hates my fiancé.

I mean, just because someone is your mother doesn't mean you need to like them or even keep them around, especially if they are toxic.

Then she doesn't need to be on the guest list, IMO. I'm very much not one to feel obliged to entertain stuff like this just because I'm related to someone. I don't deal with things like this, period. My mother is only invited to my wedding because she begged to come and has sworn to act decent and she is trying to suck up to my kids. Some people just hand you the scissors you need to cut them off.

I really appreciate the support and insight from everyone! I'll definitely withhold wedding details and will not be looking to see if she attends or not. This has been a painful, ongoing process, but I'm just gonna kick it to the side because I'm getting married to my best friend and it's going to be a joyous and fun occasion one way or another! YAY! Lol

Good for you Armani!

Op, id talk to your family and explain what is going on. From there if none of them show up then it is their loss, not yours. Though I would consider counseling to handle the grief of loosing those family members that do not show up.

Great attitude! I agree to just let it go and she will soon realize her words don't hold as much power over you and will only push you away.

@Nonna, how exactly were OP and hey FH wrong? They rightly declined OPs mother's desire to take out an unnecessary restraining order. Sounds pretty adult to me...

It sounds like you have the right idea. You can't change her mind if she isn't open to it. Focus on the good things (like your wedding!!) and send her an invite. Let her decide if she wants to let this drive a wedge between you.

"I think she has this idea that because he's my FH he has to bend to her will."

My mom thinks the same thing - nothing my fiance says or does is good enough for her. God forbid he doesn't attend some sort of family thing or just agree/yes her to death and she thinks he's the worst person ever.

Moms like this are just jealous and will either get over it over time, or won't. You and your fiance should continue to live your lives and he shouldn't be afraid to tell her no (and when he does, he's going to need you to back him up). My mom will send me these 85 page long text messages when my fiance doesn't appease her wishes and I simply ignore the behavior every time like a child throwing a tantrum.

I've done a restraining order and unless that person has done something to you, you can't get one. Your mother would have been laughed at by the judge. You are grown, she over stepped her bounds. Good luck to you and FH.

From what you've stated, I'd be concerned my mom might act a fool and ruin my wedding. Is this a concern for you?

Your mom ... make my mom look like an angel