So I want a disclaimer that I really am not trying to be difficult or Bridezilla on my end and am truly truly trying to be flexible- would just appreciate some flexibility from the moms! My fiance and I are getting married in May and have some what of a unique color scheme. I am trying to find ways to incorporate a burnt orange/ rust color into the palette after realizing the other color that's apart of the scheme was taking over a lot. Since that burnt orange color is hard to find I found a dress for my mom to try in that color. After her throwing it on with kleenex up her nose from a nose bleed and looking somewhat disheveled- no makeup and tying the tie completely half done. She was adamant that it wasn't going to work. All I asked of her was to wait until my sister came to visit in a few days (she lives in a different state) to see if there was anyway she could help her with some alterations that could be made since she is short and wasn't tying it correctly. I told her in the mean time I would look and try to find other options with that color which didn't seem to matter at all. This got a lot of back lash- like a big blow-up. . She ended up going to my aunts to who helped her a lot and made her feel more comfortable but we still ended up going a different direction which I was totally fine with.
Mean while I am also filling in my Future MOL about the new dress my mom and I found and that there was one that was a similar style and color that would go with my moms which she was willing to try with some expected alterations (length etc). Well now she totally hates the dress as well. I don't want to make anyone wear anything that is going to make them feel horrible. I just have a more DIY personality where I am like lets see if there are any way we can adjust this and exhaust our options before we go on to the next plan. I have just been having hard time trying to find that color incorporated in a dress and would appreciate some willingness just to see if the dress could be adjusted in any way before we move on to finding something else which I am already trying to figure out on my end.
I have tried to communicate clearly that I would just appreciate exhausting this option with potential alterations while I get my creative juices flowing on a different color that can be used with more variety in styles and feel like there is no flexibility- am still waiting for my own mom to even get her dress in the mail so she could hate it too and then obviously we are going a different direction. Please do not tell me to just get over it and that I am being controlling. I have already done a lot of thinking about it and there has been a lot of work and stress around this. Would just love some helpful thoughts.
Anyway, would love your help on how to handle this!
